02/12/2026
One script I have found myself tangled in goes something like this: “I could be happy if only I had …”
More resources.
Predictability and peace in my home.
More time.
Uncomplicated relationships.
Friends who were more understanding.
The ability to see a future where I’m really OK.
Instead of saying“if only I had” and filling in the blank with some person, possession, or position, we can choose to replace that statement with God’s Truth.
Here are some examples:
If only I had … people.
I no longer dwell on, If only my biological father loved me. Instead I remember God is the “Father of the fatherless” (Psalm 68:5, ESV), and His love for me endures forever (Psalm 136).
Maybe your gap isn’t left by an absent father but by a friend who hurt or rejected you. Or maybe you long to have children, but you still don’t. Whatever it is, God is the perfect fit for your emptiness.
If only I had … possessions.
I no longer get fixated on the things I wish I had or what others have. Instead, I redirect my focus to Matthew 6:19-21: “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven … For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (NIV).
Any possession I ever long for, no matter how good it may seem, will only be good for a limited time. In light of eternity, every possession is in the process of breaking down and becoming devalued. If I set my heart solely on acquiring things, I’ll feel more vulnerable with loss.
If only I had … position.
Instead of thinking, If only I had more opportunities or networking connections … we can pray the words of Psalm 119:105: “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path” (NIV). What an exhale from the pressure of striving and competing. Friend, you don’t need a better position to get where you should go. You don’t have to figure out your path and run ahead. God’s Word will guide you. As you follow and honor Him step by step, you can be assured you're right where He wants you.
Sweet sister, let the solid truths from Scripture interrupt whatever “if only I had” statement you’re struggling with today.
-Lysa TerKeurst
Our deepest longings will find true fulfillment in God alone. He’s got a good plan for good things. How does this promise encourage you in what you’re longing for, praying for, or even feeling desperate for today?
