10/12/2026
30 minutes ago, this was a post in a homeschooling Facebook group, called Unhinged Homeschool Moms. Please read the full post.
“Feeling disheartened and need your experiences, mamas 🙏
Yesterday we bought two baby rabbits for the kids. They were so excited, and I'd even printed a rabbit unit so we could learn about them together. Before we bought them, we explained that rabbits are fragile and need gentle care, not like our four dogs. We thought it would be a good way to teach gentle care.
At home, my 5-year-old kept carrying them around, making them "dance" and "fly". I get that he was excited, but we told him many times to be gentle and to stop. By the end of the day we were fed up. We tried not to shout, but I got really frustrated and raised my voice, and we told him that if he couldn't take care of them, we would take them away. Not my best moment. We never hit our kids, and we work hard to move away from punishment towards a more gentle, nervous-system-aware way of parenting. But I'll admit we sometimes get there with the shouting, especially when they don't listen and it starts getting dangerous.
Today he put a rabbit on a pouf and made it slide. The pouf tipped over, he pressed down on it thinking it was funny, and the rabbit died. The other one had diarrhoea, maybe from being handled too much, and it died too.
I got very angry. I'm also feeling bad because I don't want to traumatise him, but I need the lesson to land. He's a kind boy who loves animals. He didn't mean any harm. For me there are two lessons here:
1. Learning to be gentle with fragile animals (we'd never had any before).
2. When we say stop, you stop. This is the big one. We want them to explore and experiment, but both my kids (5 and 2½) keep going after we say stop, and today showed why that matters.
I keep asking myself where this comes from. I've looked in the mirror, and honestly we don't act like this at home. We homeschool, so the only other kids they spend time with are their cousins, who are quite rough and don't show the values respect we want to inculcate in our kids. Every time we see them, my kids pick up behaviours we then have to undo. My kids even come and tell me when a cousin did something disrespectful, and then they copy it anyway.
A big reason I homeschool is to give my kids a solid foundation: the confidence to know themselves and do the right thing even when others don't. I'm doing it alone, in a country where homeschooling isn't common or understood, with no community around me. So when something like this happens, I wonder if I'm failing.
I don't want to stop homeschooling, and I don't want to go back to punishment. But I need to start course correcting now, because this can't continue, especially the not stopping.
So I'm asking you:
- How did you teach your little ones to really stop when you say stop, without shouting or punishment?
- How did you handle a big mistake like this, so they learn from it without being crushed by it?
- How do you deal with kids copying behaviour from cousins or other kids you don't agree with?
- What would you do differently in my place?
I'm humble enough to accept I'm missing something. I'm the first one homeschooling in my family and my community. Please share your experiences, advice, anything. I'm listening. 💛”
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We read this and were SHOCKED. Sometimes people need a dose of reality. I commented, “I’m going to be so real, knowingly getting your child a fragile, EXOTIC, animal to learn to be gentle with was a huge mistake.
Just telling him to stop making them fly wasn’t enough. Clearly they were scared and in danger. You didn’t enforce boundaries - which is literally your job as a parent.
Saying you’d take them away if he couldn’t care for them? YOU needed to be the primary caretaker as an adult and not let it get that far.
Sounds like you mostly sat on the sidelines and now everyone in your family is responsible for neglecting, abusing, and killing 2 rabbits.
Doesn’t matter if he meant any harm or not. You’re the adult. You could have stopped this 10x over. You failed your child and the bunnies.”
What would you have said? We’re sick of people treating rabbits as starter pets for their kids.
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