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08/21/2026

People hear "martial arts" and naturally think about fighting. I've spent most of my life around martial arts, and one of the things it has taught me is how quickly people can treat something like a fight when it isn't one.

Someone disagrees with us. Someone tells us we're wrong. Someone criticizes something we did. And before we know it, we're defending ourselves and figuring out what we're going to say back instead of listening to what they're saying.

I've caught myself doing it too.

There's a big difference between defending yourself physically and feeling like you have to defend yourself in a conversation.

Not every disagreement needs a winner. Sometimes you get a lot further when you stop trying to win.

08/20/2026

"That's not what I meant."
I've probably said that thousands of times in my life.

The problem is, what I meant and what someone else heard aren't always the same thing.

I see this in teaching all the time.

I can give an instruction that seems perfectly clear to me and have several students interpret it several different ways. I could blame them for not listening but if multiple people misunderstood me, I probably need to take a look at how I explained it.

That's something teaching has made me much more aware of outside the martial arts school too.

We spend a lot of time defending what we meant. Sometimes it's worth finding out what the other person actually heard.

08/19/2026

If you've taught anything long enough, you've probably had this happen.

Someone isn't getting what you're trying to explain, so you explain it again. They still don't get it. So, you explain it again, only now you're using more words.

At some point I had to realize that if my explanation didn't work the first three times, a fourth version of the same explanation probably wasn't going to solve the problem.

Sometimes I need to stop. Let the student try it. Show them instead of telling them. Break it down differently. Or give them a minute and come back to it.

I've found the same thing is true when people get frustrated.

Pushing harder usually doesn't make someone less frustrated.

Sometimes giving a little space is what allows you to actually keep going.

08/18/2026

I used to think that if I explained something and nobody had questions, I had done a pretty good job explaining it.

I've learned that's not necessarily true.

I've had plenty of students nod when I asked if they understood and then realize a few minutes later that they were completely lost.

Some people will tell you immediately when they don't understand something.

Others won't.

They may be thinking about it. They may not know what question to ask. They may not want to be the only person in the room who doesn't get it. Or they may just want you to stop talking so they can try it themselves.

That's why I don't assume silence means understanding anymore.

Sometimes the best way to find out if I've communicated something well is to stop talking and see what happens next.

08/17/2026

I've had students tense up the second I tell them I want them to try something again.

I haven't told them they did anything wrong. I haven't criticized them. But they hear "try it again" and immediately assume they failed.

I've seen it enough over the years that I've learned to pay attention to it.

Sometimes people are reacting to what they think you're going to say before you've even said it and as an instructor, that matters.

If someone thinks I'm disappointed in them, they're probably not paying much attention to whatever instruction comes next. They're thinking about the fact that they messed up.

So sometimes I must change how I approach it.

"Let's try that again" can mean exactly what it says.

We're learning. Let's try it again.

08/14/2026

Maybe the student isn't the one who needs to change.

This one took me a while to learn.

When someone repeatedly struggles with something I'm teaching, it's very easy to focus on what they can't do.

Eventually I learned to turn the question around. Have I explained it another way? Have I demonstrated it? Can I break it into smaller steps? Do they need to physically experience the movement? Do they simply need more time?

Sometimes I change one thing about the way I'm teaching and suddenly the person who "couldn't do it" can.

They didn't suddenly become more capable. I just helped them remove something that was getting in their way.

That's a lesson I've carried far beyond the mat.

08/13/2026

I've heard "I can't do this" more times than I could possibly count, and I've learned not to take it literally.

Sometimes it means:
I don't understand yet. I'm afraid I'll get it wrong. Everyone else seems better at this. I need more time. I need you to show me differently.

Or simply...I'm frustrated.

Those are very different problems. And none of them necessarily mean I can't.

Before we try to decide what someone is capable of, sometimes we need to figure out what they're actually trying to tell us between the lines.

08/11/2026

We notice the belt.
We notice the completed movement.
We notice the moment someone finally succeeds.

What we don't usually see are the 37 attempts that came before it.

The hesitation. The frustration. The tiny adjustments. The day they almost gave up. The day they came back anyway.

After decades of teaching martial arts, I've learned that the moments worth celebrating often happen long before anyone applauds.

A student tries without being prompted. Remembers something they needed help with yesterday. Gets frustrated—and tries again.

Achievement is visible. Progress often isn't.

As instructors, teachers, parents and mentors, we have to learn to see both.

08/10/2026

One of the hardest things to watch as an instructor is someone struggle.

Your instinct is to help. Correct the movement. Simplify it. Step in. But over the years, I've learned not to confuse struggle with failure.

Sometimes the struggle is the learning.

Maybe they remembered one more step this time. Maybe they needed one less reminder. Maybe they stayed with something that frustrated them instead of walking away.

None of those things look incredibly impressive from across the room. But I notice them…because progress isn't always the moment someone finally gets it right.

Sometimes progress is simply what happens between attempt four and attempt five.

08/07/2026

One of the hardest lessons I had to learn as an instructor...
Silence doesn't always mean someone isn't learning.

Early in my career, I paid the most attention to the students who asked questions, volunteered first, or wanted to be front and center.

Over time, I realized some of my most thoughtful students hardly said anything at all.

They were watching. Processing. Waiting until they were ready. That changed the way I teach.

Not every learner processes information out loud. Sometimes the person making the least noise is doing the deepest learning.

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