07/10/2026
Parents and carers, if your child is getting angry, it can be difficult to know how best to respond. Here are five strategies to help you respond to your child when they get angry.
1/ Try to separate your child’s feelings from their behaviour, remembering that all feelings are okay, even though some behaviour is not. Make it clear that you’re not dismissing their anger by letting them know that it’s okay to feel however they feel, and that it’s normal to feel angry sometimes.
2/ Try not to get angry yourself, as this will only escalate the situation. Focus on staying as calm as you can - using a calm voice and open body language, for example by not folding your arms.
3/ Avoid asking them lots of questions when they’re feeling very angry or distressed. Acknowledge that they’re feeling angry, and let them know that you’d like to talk with them about what’s going on when they feel ready.
4/ If it feels appropriate, offer them some time and space to calm down. Especially with older teenagers, sometimes just having half an hour to listen to some music or do an activity they enjoy can help them feel calmer - making it more possible to have a conversation about what’s making them feel this way.
5/ If you need to, explain why their behaviour is not okay, so they understand - and hold consistent boundaries around consequences. For example, you might say that while it’s normal to feel angry, it’s not okay when they shout at you. Remember that while your child might resist boundaries and consequences, they can actually help them to feel safe, contained and cared for.