06/22/2026
"Growing up, the message I heard was that being a man meant being tough. It meant not showing your feelings and not letting people see when something affected you.
Somewhere along the way, strength started to look like pretending you’re fine.
I learned early that showing emotion could be seen as weakness. Fear, sadness, vulnerability - they made you soft. And, of course, there was that saying: “big boys don’t cry.”
So, you start to learn that certain emotions are acceptable and certain emotions aren’t. Anger might be accepted, but sadness isn’t. Confidence might be accepted, but fear isn’t.
Over time, that teaches men to hide what they’re really feeling instead of learning how to express it in a healthy way.
I think some men suffer in silence because they feel like they have to keep it all together. A lot of men feel like the weight of the world is on their shoulders. They’re carrying their own weight, and sometimes they feel like they’re carrying everybody else’s too.
We don’t want to seem weak. We don’t want to be a burden. We don’t want people to think we can’t handle it.
But what I’ve learned is holding everything in doesn’t make the weight disappear. It just makes you carry it alone.
What makes me feel supported is when somebody can either relate to what I’m going through, acknowledge it, or just create a safe space for me to share without judgment. Sometimes support isn’t about someone fixing the problem. Sometimes it’s just about feeling heard, understood, and not alone in what you’re carrying.
That’s why I work with CAMH Foundation as an ambassador. CAMH is focused on spreading awareness, advancing the conversation around mental health and making a real impact in communities.
A lot of men, including myself, just want to feel seen, supported and appreciated.
And sometimes, creating that space is where the healing starts.
If there were a man in my life who was struggling, I would say:
“I see you.
You’re not alone.
And you’re allowed to ask for help.”
-Tychon Carter-Newman
This Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, CAMH Foundation is encouraging people to check in on the men in their lives and create space for honest conversations. Explore the CAMH Mental Health Toolkit at https://ow.ly/jucN50Zfh0X
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