08/09/2026
The difference between care and control matters.
We all want to feel cared for and safe in our relationships. But sometimes it can be hard to see the difference between care and control.
đ¤ Does your partner insist on knowing exactly where you are at all times, or having access to all of your messages?
đ¤ Do they make decisions about who you can be friends with, or what you wear?
đ¤ Do they make you feel guilty for trying to say no?
These controlling behaviours are relationship âred flagsâ
They're the little things that build up and leave you feeling confused or unsure... Like youâre walking on eggshells, or maybe like youâre being âirrationalâ.
When we know how to see the signs of controlling behaviour (and what they can lead to), we can help each other recognise the difference between care and coercive control. It might be happening to you, or you might see it happening to someone you know.
The difference between care and control matters: because we all have a right to feel safe with the people we love.
Learn more about coercive control here: https://www.respectvictoria.vic.gov.au/prevention/recognise-violence/coercive-control-non-physical-Greater Bendigo Against Family Violence