08/21/2026
They show instead of tell.
A child hears hundreds of instructions a day. Most of it becomes noise to them.
"Be gentle" means nothing to a two year old. They have no picture for it. Watching you gently pet a dog while saying "gentle, so she feels safe" gives them one.
Say what you are doing and why while you do it:
🌿 Instead of "clean up your toys," put one away yourself and say "blocks go in the bin so we can find them tomorrow"
🌿 Instead of "put your coat on," put yours on first and say "it is cold out, this keeps me warm"
🌿 Instead of "calm down," take a slow breath and say "I am upset, so I am taking a minute"
🌿 Instead of "be careful," step over the root and say "I am watching where my feet go so I do not trip"
Children copy what adults actually do, not what adults tell them to do. Including the parts you were not trying to teach.
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