07/31/2026
One of my favorite moments from this month's Monthly Community Conversation wasn't actually about the hats at all.
It was when Yolanda said:
"I think the self is realizing that we're the hat rack."
That one sentence can completely shift a perspective.
So much of life is spent trying to understand the roles we play—parent, leader, entrepreneur, caregiver, survivor, artist, volunteer.
We spend years asking ourselves, "Which hat am I wearing today?"
But what if that's the wrong question?
What if the better question is:
Who is the human wearing the hats?
At some point, I realized that our identities aren't meant to trap us. They're experiences. They're responsibilities. They're opportunities to serve. But they are not who we are.
We are the ones who choose how those roles shape us.
That's what defining the narrative has always meant to me.
Not allowing our circumstances, titles, successes, failures, trauma, or even our greatest accomplishments to become our identity.
Instead, choosing—every single day—how we move through the world with them.
Jennifer ended the conversation with a question that I haven't been able to stop thinking about:
"Is there a story attached to a hat you're wearing that no longer serves you?"
I think that's a question every human should sit with.
Because sometimes growth isn't about finding a new hat.
Sometimes it's about realizing you were never the hat to begin with.
You were always the one wearing it.
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