08/26/2026
Vanessa's Story - Part 3 of 5: "After ten years of resigning to the fact that I would not have another child, I found out I was pregnant. When I told the birth father, his response was for me to get an abortion. I said no. This was my baby and that was never going to be an option. I would only choose life. He told me that I was selfish, ended our friendship, and walked out of my life.
I decided the best thing I could do for the little one growing inside me was to place her for adoption. I had no idea where to even start, but I would figure it out. A still, small voice was telling me this was the right path. I decided I would write of list of what I wanted in future parents for my baby. If they didn’t meet those standards, I would not consider them. This would be the most important decision of her and my life, so it had to be right. I started to research adoption agencies. That was a bit overwhelming.
I looked at a couple of profiles online. Nice enough looking people, but there was just no way to get a connection from a profile. Not for me. What I didn’t know was God already had her parents picked out for me. A dear friend said they knew of a couple that had just recently started the adoption process and were praying for a baby. He had even unknowingly vetted them before we knew I was pregnant by asking various questions to get to know their desires, and through that process felt they might be someone I would consider.
We all met for lunch. They shared their story and desire, and I got excited. I wasn’t afraid. I loved them, and they checked all the boxes! After I told my friend, “Do you think they could be my friend even if I chose to parent?”
We met a few more times to get to know each other, and I fell in love with them. I gave them a card with an ultrasound picture and the caption, “Will you be my parents?” We continued to spend time together so they could be part of the process. My confidence in choosing my daughter’s parents grew with each visit, though things were not all roses."
