28/10/2026
๐๐ Halloween and Grief โ Be Gentle With Yourself ๐๐
While Halloween is often a time of costumes, decorations, laughter and family traditions, it can also be a difficult time for those grieving the loss of a baby or child.
Holidays and special occasions can bring memories of the moments we shared, the traditions we created and the experiences we had hoped to share in the years ahead. Seeing children dressed up, remembering past Halloweens or simply noticing the excitement around us can bring a quiet ache for someone who is no longer here.
Grief can show up in unexpected ways. You might feel sadness, emptiness, anxiety or a longing for what could have been. You might find comfort in familiar traditions, or you may not feel like celebrating at all. You might even experience a mixture of emotions throughout the day.
๐ Whatever you are feeling, there is no right or wrong way to experience Halloween when you are grieving.
If Halloween feels difficult this year, here are a few gentle reminders:
๐งก Give yourself permission to choose. You don't have to participate in celebrations or continue traditions if they feel too hard. It's okay to do things differently.
๐งก Make space for your feelings. You don't need to put on a brave face or explain your grief to others. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up, without judgement.
๐งก Find your own way to remember. You might light a candle, look through photographs, say your child's name or create a small ritual that helps you feel connected to them.
๐งก Take things one step at a time. Keep plans simple, take breaks when you need to and give yourself permission to change your mind.
๐งก Reach out if you need to. Talking with someone who understands, whether a friend, family member or support service, can help you feel less alone.
For bereaved parents, Halloween can be another reminder of the milestones, memories and everyday moments you wish you could share with your child. For siblings, grandparents and other family members, it can bring its own feelings of missing someone special.
There is no timeline for grief, and there is no expectation that you should feel a certain way because a holiday is approaching.
This Halloween, please remember to be gentle with yourself and with others. You never know what someone may be carrying beneath the surface. ๐
If Halloween feels hard this year, you are not alone. Amber NT is here to support Territorians impacted by the loss of a baby or child, whenever they need us.
๐ Beside You in Grief.