09/27/2026
2 sets of sisters we have had the privilege of living with in our home. 2 very different stories.
I found myself last week in a courthouse to celebrate an adoption. 2 girls who lived in our home now have a forever family to call their own. They will grow up all their days being known, loved, belonging and knowing how loved they are by their family and also the Lord.
To my surprise, in walked another set of sisters. Girls we had loved, welcomed and advocated for in previous years. Girls who were a part of our community. Girls we fought for. And there they were…with another foster family who also had an adoption that day…but not their adoption.
As we talked and they told me life updates, it became clear that they will live until adulthood in the foster care system. Not adopted. Not seeing their biological family. Just waiting the years to age out of the system.
I have wrestled for the days since then on how to make sense of that hour on a random Wednesday. Why is the world so broken? When will it ever make sense that there are kids that have no option other than to age out of foster care? Could we have done more? Should we have done more? What will the rest of their lives look like as a result of the broken foster care system?
This is what I know to be true: a governmental system designed by humans will never be the answer to broken families and relationships.
It’s why the church is so vitally important in the foster care space. Both sets of sisters had the chance to live in gospel community with other Christ followers who loved them and influenced their lives. Both sets of sisters saw healthy marriages and families and know that there are options other than chaos and abuse for their relationships. Both sets of sisters saw us parent and live imperfectly and they heard us apologize, attempt to restore relationship when we hurt the people in our home and move forward still loving one another.
The foster care system will sometimes do what is best for kids and sometimes it will fail kids. But the church…we get to do it differently! For however long a foster child is in our church family, we get to be the hands and feet of Jesus to that child. We get to pray over them, we get to share the story of Jesus putting on flesh to have a relationship with them, we get to tell the greatest and most true realities that will ever exist. That the Lord will return and make all things right. That brokenness and sin and loss ultimately do not win. And that eternity in perfection with the only One who has ever loved us perfectly is much longer than brokenness on this Earth.
Come quickly, Lord Jesus.