10/17/2026
One of the things October is known for us Domestic Violence Awareness. Please read below and know that you matter.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
Intimate partner violence is an issue that affects both civilian and military populations. An estimated one in three women, and one in four men, have experienced domestic violence in their lifetime, according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. It affects all sorts of people in the United States and abroad, in suburbs, cities and rural areas, regardless of culture, economic class, gender, sexuality, location, education level, race, religion, etc., which is why it is important to know the signs of domestic abuse and where to turn for help. And it doesn't typically start with physical violence.
Last October, we interviewed Joyce Bilyeu, CEO of the Sacramento Regional Family Justice Center in California, about this topic. Her name may be familiar to you - in addition to her work as an advocate and author, she is an active VFW Auxiliary member who has served as National Patriotic Instructor, National Americanism Ambassador, National Historian and Department of California President (2011-2012), among other positions. Bilyeu is an expert in domestic violence education, prevention and assistance. She is also a survivor.
"Domestic violence isn't a private issue," according to Bilyeu. "It's a community issue."
You can read the article in its entirety by clicking the link in the VFW Auxiliary National E-Newsletter.
It is important to remember that we, as VFW Auxiliary members, are not counselors, experts or law enforcement, but we can help by sharing information and resources at our meetings or in our communities, and also by posting fliers and phone numbers in Post home bathrooms or bulletin boards (with permission), by knowing the red flags and by believing victims when they share their stories.
"When we don't say anything, it continues and people get hurt," says Bilyeu. "I always (say), 'I believe your story.' Listen without judgment, connect them to resources."
Spreading a message of hope is key. It can get better. You are not alone.