10/26/2026
Children don't have to be the direct target of abuse to be affected by domestic violence.
They may hear arguments from another room.
They may see a parent being threatened, controlled, or hurt.
They may notice the tension in the home, become worried about someone's safety, or learn to change their own behavior to avoid upsetting an adult.
And sometimes, children understand much more about what's happening around them than adults realize.
The effects can look different from child to child. You may notice:
💜 Increased fear, worry, or anxiety
💜 Changes in sleeping or eating
💜 Difficulty concentrating or changes at school
💜 Becoming unusually quiet or withdrawn
💜 Increased anger, aggression, or emotional outbursts
💜 Feeling responsible for protecting a parent or sibling
💜 Complaints such as headaches or stomachaches
💜 Changes in how they understand relationships, conflict, and safety
But experiencing domestic violence does not determine a child's future.
Safe and stable environments, supportive adults, healthy relationships, and access to appropriate mental health support can all play an important role in helping children process what they've experienced and heal.
Adults can help by reminding children:
This is not your fault.
It is not your job to fix it.
You deserve to feel safe.
There are adults who can help.
And as adults, we have another responsibility: what we model matters.
Children are learning about relationships from the world around them. When we model respect, boundaries, healthy communication, accountability, and kindness, we're helping show them that relationships can look different.
💜 Children deserve to grow up feeling safe, supported, heard, and loved.
At CHD, we offer free mental health screenings year-round and have four licensed therapists available to provide professional mental health support.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence and needs support:
📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
📱 Text START to 88788
🌐 www.thehotline.org
and to help us continue conversations that can support healthier families and help break cycles for the next generation.