Your Angel Has Arrived

08/08/2026

**PEOPLE ALWAYS ASK THE SAME QUESTION AFTER A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOMICIDE...**

*"How did this happen?"*

But survivors often ask a different question.

**"Why didn't anyone see what was happening before it got this far?"**

The truth is, abuse rarely becomes deadly overnight.

Long before a life is lost, there are often warning signs.

Control is mistaken for love.

Jealousy is brushed off as passion.

Threats become "just words."

Friends worry but don't know what to say.

Family members hope things will get better.

And little by little, the danger grows.

By the time the evening news tells the story, the people who loved them are left wishing someone had recognized the pattern sooner.

That's why education matters.

That's why intervention matters.

And that's why every conversation about domestic violence has the power to save a life.

**The goal isn't simply to understand the tragedy.**

**It's to prevent the next one.**

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Abuse comes in many forms:

𝗜𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
•Controlling who someone can see, talk to, or spend time with.
•Creating conflict with friends or family so the person becomes more dependent on the relationship.
•Limiting access to transportation, communication, or support systems.

𝗠𝗼𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝘂𝗿𝘃𝗲𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲
•Constantly checking a person’s location, phone, messages, or social media.
•Demanding passwords or access to accounts.
•Using tracking apps or technology to keep tabs on someone.

𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗠𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗽𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
•Using fear, guilt, shame, threats, or humiliation to influence behavior
•Making someone feel responsible for the abuser’s emotions or actions
•Threatening to leave, harm themselves, ruin the person’s reputation, or retaliate

𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹
•Controlling access to money, bank accounts, employment, or education
•Preventing someone from working or forcing them to depend financially on the partner
•Monitoring spending or requiring permission to buy necessities

𝗚𝗮𝘀𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆
•Denying events happened or rewriting situations to make the person question their memory or judgment
•Minimizing harmful behavior (“You’re too sensitive,” “That never happened”)
•Making the person doubt their own instincts and perceptions

𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹 𝗢𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗗𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗖𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀
•Dictating clothing, appearance, routines, friendships, activities, or decisions
•Expecting constant updates about where someone is and what they are doing
•Making rules that only apply to one person in the relationship

𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗨𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗙𝗲𝗮𝗿
•Threatening harm to the person, children, pets, family members, or themselves
•Using anger, destruction of property, or physical intimidation to create fear
•Making someone feel they cannot safely leave or disagree

Coercive control is not about one isolated incident, it is a 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿𝘀 designed to create power and control over another person. It can exist even without physical violence and is often a warning sign for escalating abuse.

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08/05/2026

Amen.

Violence doesn't always start with a bruise.

Punching walls, breaking doors, throwing objects, and destroying property are often acts of intimidation. They send a message without saying a word: "This could be you next."

No one should have to wonder if they'll be the next thing that gets hit.

🚩 Did you recognize this as a warning sign before today? Share your thoughts below. Your story could help someone else recognize the danger.

06/16/2026

💜 The most dangerous lie about domestic violence?

That the story ends when someone leaves.

It doesn't.

For some survivors, the hardest part begins afterward.

For some families, there is no afterward.

There are only birthdays that never happen.

Empty chairs that never get filled.

And questions that never get answered.

That is why we Run4Her.

Not because it's a challenge.

Not because it's an event.

Because every mile represents a story.

And some stories deserve to be carried forward.

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Who are you walking for?

06/16/2026

Very true 😔

"Reactive abuse" is often used to describe a survivor's response after being pushed, threatened, controlled, or provoked past their breaking point.

But we need to be careful with that phrase.

A reaction to abuse is not the same as a pattern of abuse. Self-defense is not abuse. Survival is not abuse.

Abuse is about power and control. Many abusers provoke a reaction, then use that reaction to blame, call the survivor "crazy," involve others, or make themselves look like the victim.

Context matters. A trauma response is not evidence of who started the harm. The question is not who reacted. The question is who was using power, control, intimidation, or violence.

06/13/2026

05/16/2026

Stop the violence! Get help!

Domestic violence has often been framed as a "private family matter," but its impact reaches far beyond closed doors.

Intimate partner violence affects millions each year, impacts children, workplaces, schools, healthcare systems, courts, and entire communities. The CDC reports that over 41% of women and 26% of men in the U.S. experience contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime.

Domestic violence is not just personal. It is a public health issue. A human rights issue. A systemic issue.

And prevention requires more than asking survivors to leave- it requires education, accountability, trauma-informed systems, and cultural change.

05/10/2026

Amen.

Mother’s Day Is Coming… And For Some Women, It Doesn’t Feel Like Celebration

Before the flowers.
Before the posts.
Before everyone tells you to “enjoy your day.”

There’s a side of Mother’s Day people don’t talk about.

And if you know—you know.

This isn’t just for one kind of mother.

This is for the ones who carry things no one sees:

👉 the mother who survived abuse while raising her children
👉 the mother who left—and is still rebuilding everything
👉 the mother co-parenting with someone she fears
👉 the mother who feels guilt for what her children witnessed
👉 the mother grieving a child who should still be here
👉 the mother who never had the kind of mother she needed
👉 the mother who is trying to heal while still showing up every day

Mother’s Day doesn’t land the same for them.

It can bring up grief.
Guilt.
Relief.
Anger.
Loneliness.
All at once.

And most people?

They’ll never see that part.

This isn’t a soft message.

It’s a real one.

👉 Before Mother’s Day gets here, read this:
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Because you’re not the only one who feels this way.

💜 You are not alone
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❓ What does Mother’s Day bring up for you now?