05/04/2026
Towards the end of last week, I went to the zoo with a couple friends for the first time in a while. Our older kids are all in full-time school and we each had our youngest with us. I was running earlier than I had anticipated that morning and in the first few minutes of the drive I was thinking about how much easier it was to have my 4 year old with me than when I had gone to the zoo with my kids when they were younger, and certainly easier than when they were babies. It doesn't seem that long ago that I had a double stroller, diapers, wipes, and all kinds of accessories to make it through an outing. I was feeling really good about how seamless it was leaving the house until I realized we hadn’t put on my daughter’s jacket and I had also forgotten our sunscreen. Also, I forgot I was running on empty and knew I had to get gas.
So! After retrieving our items and filling up the tank, we made it to the zoo (along with seemingly all of the field trip buses from the entire KC metro) and we had a wonderful day exploring! It made me laugh that even though I was in an “easier” stage of parenting, we are always less than perfect. I also took a lot of the day reflecting on how grown up my daughter seemed. She was checking the map constantly, begging to take pictures on my phone, and directing my friend’s kids when it was time to leave an exhibit. We ended up spending most of the day with the animals and when we got home, we found that I had left the garage door open the whole time! Nothing like feeling like you have it all together and then being met with your mistakes.
Her preschool graduation is coming up and it will be quite the transition for our family. I’m trying to savor the slower weekdays we have right now, documenting her "little kid” phrases and thoughts, and allowing her the space for independence and growth. While I face preschool graduation, I know so many of you are already in the middle of high school and college graduations, bringing home newborns, welcoming grandbabies, or prepping to be empty nesters.
Something about motherhood is always changing, in obvious ways like the milestones listed above, and in less obvious ways, such as not knowing the last time you needed to apply ni**le cream, not having to nag your kids to take a bath, or not having to remind them to keep their phone charged before they leave the house for a night out with friends. Our kids are constantly growing, changing, and so are we! It’s a great reminder of why having a support system in place, like BBM, can help us stay focused on the big picture and share in each other’s joys, mistakes, and life experiences.
BBM Love.
Laura Caywood