10/20/2017
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The article was very triggering and upsetting for me to read on a couple levels. I cried reading this woman's story of sexual assault, and I deeply related to her thoughts and feeling after the assault. I had the same thoughts after my assault as well, such as wouldn't calling my experience r**e devalue other woman's experience of r**e that was much more violent than my own. I related to the doubt, the confusion, and the struggle to define my experience as r**e, which I realize later came from r**e culture and today I do define it as r**e. Secondly, what was also upsetting to me is that I think is unclear that the author labels her experience as r**e, or sexual assault, or at least seems to put it within a hierarchy, hence the title "my story wasn't textbook sexual assault." Well does it need to be "textbook sexual assault" to be sexual assault? I feel that not valuing or labeling these "gray areas" as sexual assault buys into r**e culture, and that is why it is so important I think to call r**e r**e, and anything that hints at lowering or devaluing these experiences Is deeply unsettling, and feels as it is supporting r**e culture.
If you have been on social media in the past day or so, you might have seen women posting "Me too" onto their social media statuses. These women are survivors of r**e, sexual assault, or sexual harassment, and because of the dozens of women who have …