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Fasting is one of the most misunderstood spiritual disciplines. It's easy to slip into treating it like a health hack — ...
08/26/2026

Fasting is one of the most misunderstood spiritual disciplines. It's easy to slip into treating it like a health hack — a way to reset your metabolism or drop a few pounds — instead of what it actually is: a way to draw closer to God.

"When you fast, do not look somber as the hypocrites do..." (Matthew 6:16) — Jesus assumed we'd fast, but He was just as concerned with why as whether.

If weight loss is the goal, it's not a fast — it's a diet with a Bible verse attached. And if it's stretching on for weeks with no end date or clear purpose, it stops being a discipline and starts becoming deprivation — worth asking whether it's still leading you to prayer, or just another form of control.

True fasting is set apart: a defined time, a surrendered appetite, and a heart turned toward God — not the mirror. Let it be about seeking Him first. Everything else is just a byproduct. 🤍

Is your spouse a chronic procrastinator? You're not alone—studies show 20-25% of adults struggle with chronic procrastin...
08/11/2026

Is your spouse a chronic procrastinator?

You're not alone—studies show 20-25% of adults struggle with chronic procrastination. In marriage, it can breed resentment and tension if left unaddressed.

Here are 5 ways to reduce procrastination as a couple:
1️⃣ Acknowledge it exists
2️⃣ Set a deadline
3️⃣ Break the task into incremental pieces
4️⃣ Work together
5️⃣ Reward yourselves

Procrastination doesn't have to derail your marriage. With patience, grace, and a few practical strategies, you can tackle the to-do list together—and grow closer in the process.

Read the full post at https://buildyourmarriage.org/does-your-spouse-procrastinate-here-are-five-keys-to-help-you-both-be-set-up-for-a-win/

One thing we're known for by our close friends is our goal to visit 80 countries by the time we turn 80. We call it "80 ...
08/06/2026

One thing we're known for by our close friends is our goal to visit 80 countries by the time we turn 80. We call it "80 by 80" — and so far, we're at 68.

It started about 20 years into our marriage, when Brad was invited to speak in Japan. Meeting believers from a completely different culture, seeing a whole different part of God's world — it was eye-opening. It energized us in a way we didn't expect, and it sparked an insatiable desire to keep learning, keep experiencing, keep exploring what God is doing around the globe.

That one trip turned into a shared mission for our marriage. Not just a bucket list — a rhythm of adventure we keep choosing together.

💬 What's a trip that became a turning point or tradition for your marriage?
— Brad & Heidi

Every night, Brad plugs in our car. Every morning, he unplugs it.No one else would ever notice. I always notice. That's ...
07/16/2026

Every night, Brad plugs in our car. Every morning, he unplugs it.

No one else would ever notice. I always notice.

That's marriage — love shows up in the tasks nobody claps for. It's not the grand gesture, it's the quiet, repeated choice to take care of the person you love.

💬 What does your spouse do that no one else would notice but you?

- Heidi

Have you ever noticed that you tend to pray to God mainly when things are going poorly? What about when things are going...
07/14/2026

Have you ever noticed that you tend to pray to God mainly when things are going poorly? What about when things are going great? Those low-lows and high-highs have a way of turning our eyes back toward our Heavenly Father.

Just like reading scripture or praying in our private life can be sparked by change, the same is true of praying with our spouse. We encourage you to run to Jesus with your spouse in those moments — and let it become part of your everyday rhythm.

Life transitions can look like good things:
*Job offers
*Moving houses
*The birth of a child
*A child graduating or getting married

They can also look like heartbreak:
*Grieving a loss (a person, a job, a pet)
*Difficult relationships
*A surprise financial loss or expense
*A health diagnosis

Whatever season you're walking through, don't walk through it alone. Grab your spouse's hand, bow your heads, and let transition be the thing that draws you closer to each other and closer to Jesus.

Nobody sends a warning text before burnout hits. It just kind of... shows up. One of you gets a little more short-temper...
07/08/2026

Nobody sends a warning text before burnout hits. It just kind of... shows up. One of you gets a little more short-tempered, a little more tired, a little more checked out — and if you're not paying attention, it's easy to miss until you're both running on fumes.

So we get this question a lot: how do you handle it when one of you is in a season of burnout?

Honestly, the first thing we do is just name it. "Hey, I think you're running on empty" goes a long way. Once we see it, we start looking at our schedule together and asking — where can we carve out some breathing room? What's one thing we can pull off your plate this week?

And then we try to actually build in rest, not just talk about it.

Sometimes that's a whole day away. Sometimes it's just an overnight. It's wild how much one night away can feel like a full week of rest.

For one of us it's a day on the water. For the other, it might be a round of golf or just being left alone with a good book for a few hours. Doesn't have to be fancy — it just has to actually feel restful to you, specifically.

We also try to stay tuned in emotionally during those seasons. If one spouse is running low, that's not the time to pile more on at home. Grace goes further than a to-do list.

And sleep. We know, we know — it sounds almost too simple. But most of our "we're not okay" moments trace back to one of us just not sleeping enough.

Burnout is going to happen. That's not the failure. The failure is pretending it isn't there and pushing through solo. Notice it in each other. Say something. Then actually do something about it — together.

Loving your neighbor sounds simple, right? “Oh yeah, of course I love them. I don’t wish any harm against them, so yeah....
07/06/2026

Loving your neighbor sounds simple, right? “Oh yeah, of course I love them. I don’t wish any harm against them, so yeah. I love my neighbor.”

But does your neighbor know that you love them? Is there evidence that you care for them? Or is it just a neutral, civil exchange?

Here are some practical ways you can actively show up and care for those you share a yard, street, or fence with.

“Hosting” seems to have become a lost practice. Instead of hosting parties at home, it’s easier to opt for a restaurant ...
07/02/2026

“Hosting” seems to have become a lost practice. Instead of hosting parties at home, it’s easier to opt for a restaurant or location. Instead of hosting overnight, it’s tempting to just cover the hotel room. Instead of hosting a meal, it’s easier to book the get-together outside of the eating hour. And, if we do end up hosting a guest, it can quickly become an inconvenience to our schedule, budget, comfort, or even just our preference.

1 Peter 4:9 explicitly says to “cheerfully share your home with those who need a meal or a place to stay.” Ouch. Not only am I called to host within my personal space, but to do it with a happy heart.

For some, this is welcomed and a joy to do. For others, this is daunting. We encourage you today to look at your schedule and find a time to ask someone to enter your home for a meal. The conversation and connection it brings to relationships is worth it, we promise.

We are blown away to see chapter 25 from our book, “Build Your Marriage with Prayer,” featured in the June issue of LEAD...
06/30/2026

We are blown away to see chapter 25 from our book, “Build Your Marriage with Prayer,” featured in the June issue of LEAD. Magazine. To be published alongside Bob Goff, Lysa TerKeurst, Alex Seeley, Joshua Giles, and so many incredible Christian leaders is an honor.

If you want to check it out, click the link below (Page 51 😉 )

https://viewer.joomag.com/lead-june-2026/0302306001780410546?short&

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