10/22/2026
One of the greatest scenes in Ted Lasso is when Ted gives a little speech while playing darts with the show’s biggest antagonist, Rupert. He shares that the quote, “Be curious, not judgmental,” helped him realize every bully who’d ever underestimated him had lacked curiosity. Then he hit bullseyes on every shot, pointing out that Rupert hadn’t even asked if he’d played darts before challenging him to a contest.
“Genuine curiosity is disarming,” a video from Charisma on Demand points out. “Disrespectful people expect reaction or debate, not curiosity and connection. So, ask open questions. Try to understand their point of view, even if you don’t think you’ll agree with them…If you ask the right questions, you can uncover the source of their disrespect. Sometimes they’re lashing out simply because they’re having a bad day. Other times, there’s something deeper going on. So, once you’ve asked that open question, give them space to answer without interrupting.”
Gaining a greater understanding of where they’re coming from can help you respond more to the person than to the behavior.
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