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06/18/2026

Earned secure attachment is a concept or a theory that says all bodies CAN develop a secure attachment style despite experiencing difficult or adverse childhood experiences.

These individuals may have grown up with inconsistent, neglectful, or abusive caregivers, which typically leads to insecure attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, or disorganized). However, through positive experiences and relationships later in life, they have been able to "earn" a secure attachment style.

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Are you friend or foe? Insecure hearts are often unsure of who is safe to love. Secure hearts have done the work to trust another deeply: "I am confident that you have my best and highest good in mind, that you want blessing for and from me, and that we are protection for each other." Without consis...

06/12/2026

Have you ever noticed how your child can feel like two completely different people?

One moment they’re calm, thoughtful, and connected. A different moment—after a hard day, a loud room, or a small frustration—they’re overwhelmed, reactive, and hard to reach.

If you’ve ever felt confused, tired, or even unsure of what to do in these complicated moments—you are not alone. Many families are turning towards biological solutions.

Have you ever noticed how your child can feel like two completely different people?One moment they’re calm, thoughtful, and connected. A different moment—after a hard day, a loud room, or a small frustration—they’re overwhelmed, reactive, and hard to reach.If you’ve ever felt confused, tir...

06/11/2026

Are you friend or foe? Insecure hearts are often unsure of who is safe to love. Secure hearts have done the work to trust another deeply: "I am confident that you have my best and highest good in mind, that you want blessing for and from me, and that we are protection for each other."

Without consistent access to secure love in early years, it is common to struggle with secure attachment in adult relationships, until we do the work to heal. We start with curiosity: "Am I insecure?" We move toward acceptance that most insecure hearts express habits for not trusting love, actual behaviors and values that injure and dismantle secure love. It’s like self-sabatoge on repeat.

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Are you friend or foe? Insecure hearts are often unsure of who is safe to love. Secure hearts have done the work to trust another deeply: "I am confident that you have my best and highest good in mind, that you want blessing for and from me, and that we are protection for each other." Without consis...

05/31/2026

Parenting is the art of loving another, it’s an ongoing practice of empathy, alliance, boundaries, forgiveness, and consciously growing together through imperfection. Most of us do not imagine divorce from our children, but we do get confused, frustrated, and sometimes disappointed.



Parenting is an opportunity to know yourself better. When we love from grounded self-love, we contribute to earned secure relationships. When we are less than secure about ourselves, or in conflict with other adults in our tribe, we will be less secure in our parenting relationships. The solution is to heal on purpose.

Parenting is the art of loving another, it’s an ongoing practice of empathy, alliance, boundaries, forgiveness, and consciously growing together through imperfection. Most of us do not imagine divorce from our children, but we do get confused, frustrated, and sometimes disappointed. Parenting is a...

05/29/2026

All humans value depth of connection, and aspire to open hearts until injury happens and we blame ourselves. It's easy to say we understand perfection is not possible then to move into the hard work of repair after injury happens. But I say often, across many years, that we humans p**p everywhere! We must be willing to call it p**p, pick up our p**p, and expect the same from others with grace and humanity.

Mentorship is a relationship, and for so many this particular relationship is a corrective experience, one that heals infereority and amplifies self-compassion. Mentorship that allows us to evolve towards our higher self is priceless and I am in gratitude for all the mentors because I trust that leaders who embody these attributes are changing the world. Glory can be seen from Mars, it's in the get down, not the photographs.

Self-acceptance is about owning who you are—flaws, past, strengths, and all—without constantly judging yourself. In relationships, this level of maturity shifts everything. A leader, or mom, or partner who is comfortable being examined is also not likely trying to be fixed or validated. People w...

05/27/2026

Have you ever noticed how your child can feel like two completely different people?

One moment they’re calm, thoughtful, and connected. A different moment—after a hard day, a loud room, or a small frustration—they’re overwhelmed, reactive, and hard to reach.

If you’ve ever felt confused, tired, or even unsure of what to do in these complicated moments—you are not alone. Many families are turning towards biological solutions.

This isn’t about “good” or “bad” behavior.

It’s about different states of the body and nervous system.

We ask parents to imagine like this:

A calm state is steady, cooperative, and connected

An overwhelmed state is reactive, impulsive, and hard to reason with

05/25/2026

Most find it strange to imagine a relationship as having three parts: you, me, and the shared space we create together. And, once the picture sinks in, we move differently in partnerships that are anchored to the heart of a thriving, embodied connection.

Can we imagine our relationship as a living, breathing, ecosystem with three sturdy roots: your individual vitality, my personal wholeness, and the energy or power of our connection? Each root needs nourishment to remain strong. When either individual gives endlessly, the depletion will feel like burnout and resentment is inevitable. Collective brilliance requires that we know what parts, obligations, and goals belong to each individual and that we name and nurture our shared WE space, in honor of each other's highest good.

Most find it strange to imagine a relationship as having three parts: you, me, and the shared space we create together. And, once the picture sinks in, we move differently in partnerships that are anchored to the heart of a thriving, embodied connection.Can we imagine our relationship as a living, b...

05/23/2026

The weekend is here, so let's talkabout our favorite topic: Play!

At growURpotential.org, we talk often about self-trust as a survival skill, and the ways community becomes fertile ground for our emotional, somatic, and relational growth. But today I want to explore something simple, playful, and surprisingly revealing:

Are you a sheep…or a Lamb Chop?

You’ve seen the graphic by now — a classic, quiet sheep on one side, and the bold, charismatic, glove-wearing Lamb Chop puppet on the other. One follows. The other speaks, directs, jokes, interrupts, and moves the story forward. It's a funny comparison…until you realize how much of our identity work mirrors this exact choice.

Because whether we show up as a compliant sheep or a fully expressed Lamb Chop often reflects our conditioning, our nervous system, and the roles we were allowed — or forbidden — to play.

And this is where character development and improvisation become sacred tools for Healing Healers.

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Reclaiming Our Voice Through Play, Character Development, and Whole-Person HealingAt growURpotential.org, we talk often about self-trust as a survival skill, and the ways community becomes fertile ground for our emotional, somatic, and relational growth. But today I want to explore something simple,...

05/21/2026

The idea and practice of naming the parts of ourselves is not new. We help Healing Healers invest deeply in the many philosophies that guide looking inwards because they all effectively deconstruct internalized oppression. We can only use protective strategies when we know how, and once we know how we can experience a life of abundance and liberty, while navigating a world that's not there yet.

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At growURpotential.org, we mentor Healing Healers to transform by looking inwards. Healing is not just personal; it’s also political, communal, and imaginative. To change or actively participate in our journey, we must become familiar with our inner landscape.“What we can imagine, we can name. W...

05/19/2026

The emotional cost of masking can be profound—heightened anxiety,
lingering sadness, and the quiet exhaustion of performing a role that isn’t quite
us. Exploring when and how we mask is a powerful act of self-love.

It’s the first step toward being gentler with ourselves, softening the need to perform, and allowing more of our authentic selves to shine through.

We all wear masks from time to time. Sometimes they are almostinvisible—like a polite smile. Other times, they’re heavy and carefully crafted,hiding pieces of who we are so we can “fit in,” avoid conflict, or make othersmore comfortable.Masking can be a survival skill. For many, it’s learn...