Girl Above

02/09/2026

Someone you love needs this reminder 💜🤍
If social anxiety ever tells them everyone’s watching, send this their way. You’re not alone—and neither are they.

Why the spotlight effect happens ❓

A few psychological ingredients:
• Egocentrism: Not selfishness—just the fact that you can’t step outside your own perspective.
• Salience: Your mistake feels huge to you, so your brain assumes it’s huge to everyone else.
• Social anxiety fuel: The effect is stronger when you already care about others’ opinions.

Everyday examples
• Tripping slightly and thinking the whole room saw it
• Worrying everyone noticed your typo in a message
• Feeling convinced people can tell you’re nervous
• Thinking a bad outfit choice will be remembered forever

Spoiler: it won’t. 👏🏼👏🏼

Why it matters

Understanding the spotlight effect can:
• Reduce social anxiety
• Help with public speaking nerves
• Make you more willing to take risks and try things
• Let you recover faster from awkward moments

A useful mental reframe:

“If I were watching someone else do this, how much would I actually care?”

Usually the answer is: not much at all. 🤩🤘🏼

02/06/2026

💡 The truth about the teen room battle: it’s usually not worth it.

A messy room rarely justifies the tension, the nagging, or the eye-rolls. Parents see irresponsibility; teens see control. Relationships can take the bigger hit.

✅ Instead, try this: Your room, your rules — with three non-negotiables:

No food/dishes that attract bugs 🐜

No health hazards ⚠️

Once a week, all laundry & dishes out 🧺

Beyond that? Close the door, resist the cringe, and let natural consequences do the teaching.

Your relationship > a perfectly clean room. Always. 💛

🎀🎀

01/16/2026

✨Your teen saying “yes ma’am” isn’t the same as truly respecting you.Manners can be taught. Respect is built through connection, consistency and leadership.

If you’re tired of surface-level compliance or feel burnt out asking for respect and not receiving it, and you want a real relationship with your teen—one where your words actually carry weight—I can help!

👉 Click my bio
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Let’s change how your teen shows up with you (and why).

11/03/2025

🚩🚩My red flag soapbox🚩🚩

it also goes without saying that this applies to guys and girls in dating situations but because I work with women, that’s the context that I am used to. I know many of us can look back at past relationships and wonder how we missed certain red flags and unfortunately, sometimes it was because we were ignoring our own internal alarm bells.
If you know, someone who might be caught in this trap right now, send them this video!

10/06/2025

🚨ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS IN COLORADO🚨
Hi, I’m Krista 👋🏼 a Colorado based therapist working with adolescents and women ages 13 and above! I am passionate about helping women live confident and whole lives through a therapeutic process that is genuine, nonjudgmental and focused on your goals!
I spent over a decade working with adolescents, young women, and families. I am particularly passionate about helping my clients untangle their worried thoughts and address things like perfectionism, self-esteem,life change, faith, and relationships!
If you are struggling right now and need some extra support, I am accepting new clients! Visit setyourmindcounseling.com or click the link in my bio to learn more about treatment options and to schedule a free consultation call where we we can get to know each other and you can ask questions about the process. Hope to talk to you soon! 🤩
*not currently accepting insurance*

07/21/2025

Sending a kid off to college is a big step for parents! In this interview, we speak with Alisa Shanks, PhD, Director of the Larry J Crabb Center for University Counseling. We discuss what it looks like for parents to support their students while also "letting go."

In this interview, we speak with Alisa Shanks PhD, Director of the Larry J Crabb Center for University Counseling. We discuss what it looks like to transitio...

11/14/2023

This is very interesting and relevant!

"According to Haltigan, Pringsheim, and Rajkumar, the pattern is this: young girls watch videos by content creators who self-identify as having these “illnesses,” often videos that involve how the symptoms manifest during everyday activities and how it is an important part of the creator’s identity that makes them unique. Then, kids suddenly present with the outward symptoms, just as described by the content creator."

Researchers argue that a massive sudden spread of unusual psychiatric problems follows the pattern of “psychosomatic social contagion.”

10/25/2023

One in seven men and one in five women experience an eating disorder by age 40, and in 95% of those cases, the disorder begins by age 25 (doi:10.1001/jamanetworkopen.2019.12925)

Do you know the signs?!

It's important to be aware of warning signs and eating disorder symptoms that can indicate someone may need help, or a medical intervention.

10/17/2023

What is something kids have to deal with now that you didn’t when you were growing up?

10/14/2023

When you create a place of trust, your kids will be honest with you about their feelings.

Then, you get the chance to speak into it.

Hear them first. Be a good listener. Then, gently remind them of the truth.

Remember John 10:10. “The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.”

10/13/2023

Hi Everyone! Krista here. I am so excited to announce the launch of my new counseling business! I have learned so much through Girl Above, and my work with this organization continues to grow my passion for teen girls and families. I am looking forward to continuing to serve Girl Above in even more ways as a counselor!

If you want to learn more or schedule a free consultation, click below:

https://setyourmindcounseling.com/