Barbara's Lighthouse

06/19/2026

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCFa-qvkunY

In this video, Dr. Rodgers breaks down the groundbreaking science of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and developmental trauma. You’ll discover how chronic fear, stress, or neglect literally rewires a child's brain under construction—sending the threat-detection center (the amygdala) into overdrive while stalling the growth of the emotional regulation center (the prefrontal cortex).

Borrowing insights from leading trauma experts like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score) and Dr. Bruce Perry (What Happened to You?), we look at how trauma lives in the physical body, the crucial difference between developmental trauma and PTSD, and why traditional "behavior plans" often fail.

Most importantly, we cover the beautiful reality of neuroplasticity: Adversity is not destiny. The brain that was shaped by adversity can be reshaped by safety.

Check out "Raising the Child Who Challenges Everything: A Trauma-Informed and Faith-Centered Guide for Parents of Difficult, Strong-Willed, and Emotionally Intense Children" by Dr. Dr. Delisa Rodgers https://amzn.to/4eyCHZt

06/19/2026

https://youtu.be/BYFdFZKQGJo

In this video, Dr. Rodgers breaks down the relationship science most couples are never told: disconnection and reconnection are the natural rhythm of love. Using insights like Dr. Ed Tronick’s famous Still Face Experiment, we explore why conflict happens, the quiet patterns that erode connection, and how the art of "emotional repair" can actually make your bond stronger than it was before kids.

📌 What You'll Learn in This Video:
The Cycle of Connection & Repair: Why perfect synchrony is a myth, and why "the repair is the relationship."

Why Parenting Tests Partnerships: A look at the modern pressures of sleep deprivation, identity shifts, and "scorekeeping" the mental load.

The 4 Silent Connection Eroders: How to recognize the Slow Simmer, the Parenting Divide, the Scoreboard, and Rupture Without Repair.

4 Practical Tools to Reconnect: Simple, actionable phrases and shifts to move you from opponents back to teammates.

The Blueprint for Your Kids: How your children's mirror neurons absorb your relationship habits, teaching them how to love and navigate conflict in their own futures.

06/15/2026