04/13/2026
4/12/2025, the day we left our heart, the Mighty Dad in Ireland. This flight home was heartbreaking for me, particularly because Quinnie had never seen me cry, not like that. Maggie had, too many times at too young of an age. When Quinn was inpatient in 2019, I would cry every night when I would lay him to sleep-but he never knew.
We had been in Ireland for 4 nights/5 days,arriving with Jarlath in a coma, leaving shortly after he had woken up. I had run on 3 hours max sleep during that time. We hadn’t quite figured out how we were going to get him home, we just knew it desperately needed to happen as soon as possible. In leaving Jarlath in Ireland, I knew there was a good chance we might not ever see him alive again.
When we left him at the hospital in Dublin, there were so many red flags, the main one being that when he was moved from the ICU, he was moved to a floor for pulmonary patients, not a unit specifically for neurological issues. The brain tumor was still there and the level of medical care I knew he should have, was not being given.
Prior to leaving him at the hospital, a doctor explained to him “he had a mass.” Again-heavily medicated, he didn’t understand, until I looked him in the eye and said “you have a brain tumor and it’s probably cancer-we need to get you back to Boston-I’m working on it.”
It has been a year and when I look back on this week, so many things break my heart, one being that our kids, Maggie especially, have become so accustomed to trauma that they just went along with it, Dad in a coma, us three at the Dublin Zoo, smiling and laughing. The other was this flight home to Boston, I released days of “fight mode” & fear mode kicked in, I sobbed and the entire time my boy, kept asking me “are you ok Mom?” He was so worried, he had no idea why I was crying-he had no fear, hospitals & hospitalizations were totally normal for him, he had no clue this wasn’t normal or that we didn’t know if Dad would survive to get home to us.
Thank God he did & thank God for Massachusetts General Hospital & a surgery I am grateful has given us 365+ days to keep on fighting.