01/06/2021
THINKING HABITS THAT SLOW PEOPLE DOWN
1. THINKING THAT PEOPLE GIVE A DAMN ABOUT YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES (GOVERNMENT , PARENTS , BOSSES, WIVES AND HUSBANDS)
Thinking too much that people around you care about you just as much as you care about yourself will slow you down big time , why ? because when we think people care , we heavily rely on them to make something happen for us . These people care to a certain extent and that is to make sure you have eaten or that you are safe but inner aspirations like being independent and having a feeling of purpose are not considered by other people . Noone will find a job for you and your husband doesn’t care if you remain a house wife for 40 years and The government doesn’t think about you . Once you realize this , you will take ownership and take the lead in getting what you want .
2. THINKING THAT SUCCESS IS YOUR DESTINY (FEELING OF ENTITLEMENT )
Many people think they are destined for success , Surprisingly , they think they are the only ones who want to be successful . I am telling you that even someone begging on the streets thinks one day someone will come and realize that he is special and make him a minister or that he will win a lotto . We all think we are special . Thinking you are special is not helpful BUT proving that you are special is important . No one owes you a job , Your parents don’t owe you a living and your husband does not have to paint your picture for you. You ! have to do you ! . Success becomes your destiny when your character agrees with it . Like me , I know success is my destiny because am working on a Sunday with no issues . I cant remember the last time I took a day off .
3. NOT BEING YOUR TOUGHEST CRITIC (OWNERSHIP)
They say , you have to be your biggest cheerleader and at the same time you have to be your biggest critic . At times you have to look at yourself in the mirror , eye to eye and tell yourself THAT buddy , we are losing , we are not winning , we are getting older , times running out and whatever we are doing is not getting us to where we want , what can we improve ? what will we do going forward ?
These conversations with self , will help you greatly but if you cannot confront yourself that your music is not enjoyed by the masses . Then you wont switch up your style and excel. Self critiscm is cardinal. Ask yourself if you would hire a person like yourself? Someone who wants to be a secretary but cannot type or send emails. Someone who wants a job but does not want to work? Can you ask yourself such ?
4. THINKING THAT TIME WILL MAKE THINGS BETTER
Time rarely makes things better, The only healing effect time has is it makes accepting your situation easier . After being down for a while. Time will make you adapt to your circumstance. If you moved to stay in Ngombe township briefly to just let time heal your problems. You will find that time will actually make you get used to living there. Time only makes things better when you are working towards something .So don’t sit and rely on time to make things better without action.
5. LACK OF SELF-BELIEF
Most people believe in everyone but themselves . The hardest job I have as a coach is to convince someone who is over 35 years that he is worth more that 7000 net salary . Self belief is also called positivity . If you don’t believe in yourself , you are negative towards yourself and you will project it In your actions . People will see this and will even chop your money some more because they can see you don’t believe in yourself . Stand straight , Chin up and the next time someone a boss or customer asks you how much you want you say K27,000 net thank you !
6. THINKING SELFISHLY TO MEET YOUR ENDS
Other people get so little out of life because they are stingy and have very short arms like a crocodile . Selfishness doesn’t get you anywhere because people wont want to do business with your because you are greedy . You will only work with people who are desperate and cannot even do the job properly . Selfishness attracts other selfish people to work with you .
In life think win win situations , make sure that when you sell something the person is getting the best quality for the best price . or if you are dealing with people , make sure you are paying them adequately for their services . We all know the stingiest race , we know the stingiest tribe in Zambia , Selfishness does not elevate you
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