05/06/2026
IT'S FRIDATE | DATE YOUR DESTINY WITH DE'ROCK MOLEFE
PART TWO: THE DECREE BEFORE THE DATING JOURNEY
YOUNG ADULTS
Many relationships fail not because there is no love, but because there was never a decree.
A decree is a decision made before emotions are tested.
In ancient kingdoms, decrees established order before challenges arose. In the same way, healthy relationships establish boundaries, expectations, and values before entering deeper levels of commitment.
Young adults must understand this principle:
Do not enter a relationship without first discussing the rules that will govern it.
A dating relationship without clear agreements becomes vulnerable to confusion, assumptions, unnecessary conflict, and compromise.
The dating season is not merely a season of feelings; it is a season of discovery, alignment, and preparation.
Premarital preparation serves as a bridge between attraction and covenant.
Before marriage is discussed, two people should sit down and establish their relational decrees:
▪ What are our spiritual values?
▪ How will we communicate during disagreements?
▪ What boundaries will we maintain?
▪ How will we protect purity and integrity?
▪ What role will family, church, and mentors play in our journey?
▪ What are our expectations regarding purpose, finances, and future goals?
These conversations create order.
A decree says:
"We have agreed on principles that will guide us when emotions fluctuate."
Strong relationships are not built merely on chemistry. They are built on clarity.
When there is no decree, compromise becomes easy.
When there is a decree, purpose becomes the standard.
Young adults, do not allow culture to define your relationship. Establish Kingdom principles early. Create healthy boundaries. Agree on your values. Define your direction.
What is not defined will eventually be disputed.
Kings establish order before they build a kingdom.
Likewise, establish order before you build a future together.