27/05/2026
Post 23: Living in the tension
Tension is part of the picture.
Tension when a child makes it clear
that you are not their ārealā mom or dad.
Tension in a courtroom,
sitting across from a biological parent,
while their childās future is being discussed ā
and you wonder if youāre even supposed to be part of their story.
Tension within yourself,
when connection doesnāt come easily,
and you find yourself struggling to really connect with a child in your home.
Tension at visits,
sitting with their biological family ā
and especially when the visit comes to an end.
Tears everywhere,
as they say goodbye
and climb into the car with you.
Tension in the house,
when new children arrive
and everything feels like itās been turned upside down.
Because the truth isā¦
nothing about this is natural.
This is not the way it was meant to be.
And maybe thatās exactly why there is so much tension ā
because we are witnessing the brokenness of this world
colliding with what was always meant to be whole.
The pain, the separation, the uncertaintyā¦
it was never part of Godās perfect design.
And yet, right here in the tension,
He calls us to step in.
To love anyway.
To stay anyway.
To be part of the restoring, even when itās messy.
Because foster care is not about everything feeling right ā
itās about choosing to show up,
even when everything feels hard.
And learningā¦
to live faithfully in the tension.
