15/10/2025
Hi, family. It is time for us to share a self-written image with an explanation.
"Love; Marriage; S*x"
In which order should these words be arranged?
Firstly, let us talk about "the law of s*x". Jehovah and Jesus Christ give us one piece of advice, which is: "If you are not married, you should not have s*x with anybody and if you are married, that spouse you have married should be the only person you perform the activity with".
Whether you are "boyfriend; girlfriend" or "fiancé; fiancée" (or don't have a lover), please wait until after you say "I Do" to perform the activity. And after marrying, please make sure that "the person you married" is the only person you are performing the activity with.
So, here, we are saying "No" to "Adultery" and all other types of "Fornication". We are saying "No" to "S*x before Marriage". This means that in the arrangement of "the three words", "S*x" must come AFTER "Marriage".
You should become "one flesh" with your partner via the unity of marriage before allowing s*xual relations. While not married or while being around people other than your spouse, if you see anything "s*xually suggestive", just whisper to yourself "lead me not into temptation" and resist/reject it. God does not support ANY type of "fornication".
1 Corinthians 6:9-13; 1 Corinthians 6:18-21; 1 Corinthians 7:2; Ephesians 5:3; Hebrews 13:4; Revelation 21:8; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4; Galatians 5:19-21
Now, the remaining question is, in the arrangement of "the three words", where do we place the word "Love"?
Let's look at dating couples. You first admit that you both have interest in each other and accept being boyfriend and girlfriend (spending a lot of time together). Whether it takes a few months or a few years, the man eventually decides to spend money himself on an "engagement ring" and kneels down in front of the woman, with the woman happily saying "yes". These relationships with "God's timing" and "God's support" make great families, as "love" and "trust" has been built overtime. People usually say "true love is built, not found".
While they are boyfriend and girlfriend, they learn a lot about each other (this is what we call a "courtship") & they do their best to keep negative vices from infiltrating in their relationship. They go to Church together and always pray for their togetherness. They have become close with each other's immediate family members. Genuinely letting time pass without worries, the man makes the move when he is ready and they get engaged and eventually married in holy matrimony. They are blessed.
So, what we are saying here is that every "boyfriend & girlfriend" relationship should strive to fit the definition of a "courtship", which is them studying one another to see if they are compatible for marriage. We do not recommend getting into romantic relationships where "marriage" is not the end goal, as the spirit of togetherness should bring about the unity in Christ Jesus of the couple becoming "one flesh" and ushering their own new family into the world.
Before you say "I Do", you say a few vows to your partner, vowing to stand by them, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, 'til death do you part. It takes a lot of "love" and "trust" to say those words with honesty from the bottom of your heart. You do not say those words to just anybody; you say them to the person you believe is your "Godsend" and who you do not want to lose.
True love isn't found; true love is built. Whether it takes a few months or a few years for that engagement ring to be found and bought, you'll be glad that you built the "love" and "trust" you and your partner have for each other beforehand. Build a "Friendship" before building a "Marriage" and "Marry Your Best Friend".
So, we believe that "Love" should come before "Marriage".
Ephesians 5:31; 1 Corinthians 8:3; Genesis 2:24
So, as we have said here, "Love" should come first, then "Marriage" should come second and then "S*x" should come last.
Take note that there are some societies in the world where "Marrying a stranger" has proven to be a success and we can learn a lot from those couples, both the man and the woman, in terms of exactly how they believe a "spouse" and a "marriage" in general should be. We hope these type of couples remain blessed as well.