18/03/2025
**"No, It’s Just a Man."**
When a dog goes missing, no one worries. No one asks if it’s cold, hungry, or hurt—because the dog will come back. And when it does, you welcome it—not out of care, but because you need it. For security. For service. But never for its worth.
When a car hits a dog on the road, you don’t stop. You don’t check if it’s dead or dying. You simply drive on, muttering:
*"No, it’s just a dog."*
But when a car hits a human being, the world moves. You stop. Emergency services rush in. If you drive away, investigations will hunt you down. You will be charged. You will face justice. Because a human life *matters.*
This is the reality men live every day.
When a man is found dead, the world shrugs. It becomes a half-day conversation—an afterthought. *"He was probably drunk."* *"What was he doing out so late?"* No one stops to ask if he is ok, hurting, abused, or afraid. And if woman was the cause of what happen to this man , the narrative twists—*"Maybe he deserved it."* *"She must have been defending herself."*
But when a woman dies? The world stops. Investigations are immediate. The media explodes. Leaders march, demanding justice. Social feeds flood with hashtags and billboards screaming for change. And rightly so—no woman should die at the hands of violence. But where is this outrage when a man falls victim?
**When a woman cheats, society says, "No woman just cheats without a reason—her man must have pushed her to it."** But when a man cheats, he is labeled a dog—incapable of loyalty, ruled by his desires, disrespecting his partner without cause.
**When a man spends his money on things he enjoys, he’s called irresponsible.** But when a woman does the same, it’s called self-care—"She’s taking care of herself. She deserves it."
**When a woman publicly shouts at or insults a man, society says, "She must be fed up—no woman would behave like that unless she was provoked."** But if a man raises his voice, even once, he is labeled arrogant, aggressive, and abusive.
**When a woman disrespects her partner, it’s excused—"She’s tired. He must have pushed her to this point."** But if a man shows the same disrespect, he becomes a monster who "doesn’t value his woman."
We are creating monsters—silencing men’s pain while excusing women’s actions. This imbalance breeds anger, isolation, and eventually, violence.
When men speak out about abuse, they are mocked and dismissed. When they seek help, they are told to "man up." And when no one listens, they break. They lash out. Or worse—they disappear.
By ignoring the pain of men, we are planting the very seeds of the violence we claim to fight. You cannot end Gender-Based Violence by only listening to one side. Justice cannot be selective. Pain does not have a gender. And silence is deadly—whether it’s a man or a woman.
**Let’s fix this.** Stop excusing one gender while condemning the other. Stop justifying wrong behavior because of who commits it. Violence is violence. Abuse is abuse. Pain is pain—no matter who feels it.
The next time you see a headline—*"Man Found Dead,"*—don’t dismiss it. Don’t justify it. Don’t shrug it off like a dog on the side of the road. Because that man could be your brother. Your son. Your father. And when the world doesn’t care, who will?
**Stop choosing whose pain matters. All voices deserve to be heard. All lives deserve to be protected. All violence must end.**
