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13/06/2026

still in love with my x😭I asked him to make me fall pregnant 😔😞 Even if I can't have him let me have ur baby 🥱

He agreed 😫

13/06/2026

dating a man wao ngalangala is stressful,it only shows gore ago rate,been dating this guy since 2019 when ever we had missunderstanding wa ngala nd nna swantse ke morapeletse,this time around it was not missunderstand it was network problem,where i live we cannot go for 2weeks with network or electricity,this has always been a problem,nd after network is gone i try by all means to send massage of update even prove that the netwaork was gone ,not thta i hav switched my phone,nd it shows when he opens his app that this massage was send long time ago,ill find long massage calling me sferb sao jewa everytime this happen and he will go awol fro some days kele busy ke morapela,this time i just said m tired of being called"seferb fok" nd that was it,he went awol as ussual been a week now,dont wanna lie i am hurt,i cried the whole week,i had never cheated been loyal since 2019 till this day,but not happy because i felt drained by that,and whenever i raise what is hurting me it will turn into fight like my emmotions dont matter,now m sitting here i dont even know what to do ,i am hurt,broken.

11/06/2026

Copied!!My husband has been cheating since 2019 .
I then decided to take prep , and we continued having s3x . he then went sick and I nursed him , I was there Just that I fell out of love

He tested positive , May 16 (Last month) and I tested Negative . He became surprised (The nurse asked how come , and I explained I'm on Prep I knew he was cheating)

He called a family meeting telling the whole family that I'm selfish , I should have told him that he must also take prep so that he can also be protected. and now his family blames me for him being sick

11/06/2026

Hi Ladies
My mom in law once badged into me and hubs doing the deed around 3am in our bedroom. We weren't even making noise coz it's a family house, just that she controls her son so much. Bear with me, it was only few months after our lobola celebration. So from there, I dreamt of her doing the forbidden deed with her son (my man) and that worries me coz most things I ever dreamt about came to pass. Could it be PTSD? Coz to this day I don't get what was she doing in her sons bedroom mid night! And she controls him so much that she's a center of every decision. I can't think of anything other than a divorce as of late.
I will read your comments 😔😓😢😤.

10/06/2026

Copied!!hey I have a daughter she is 17 years old I don't a problem about her dating but she must not show me that she is dating okay , last of last week she came back bleeding she bath fast she didn't talk to anyone , today she come back at school around 5 and still she was bleeding and she say her va**na is painful when she seat and urine when I ask what's wrong she don't want to talk I don't know what happening any advice I thought last when she was bleeding they broke her virginity and I try to talk to her she Must prevent if she have started doing that because you cannot stop teenagers when it's come to boys

10/06/2026

🇿🇦 I WANT TO GIVE HIM A CHILD SO HE CAN MARRY ME!!
📂 FILE NO:

Hello Ask a Man. Keep me anonymous and please don't attack me...

I'm 24 and I have two babies with different guys. These guys denied their kids at before they could even be born. I moved on and raised my kids with only their SASSA since I'm not working.

I found myself a guy, he's working at a garage, and it's been two months together now and he has one child. Her baby mama is still active but they only talk about their child and my boyfriend only goes to their family when delivering baby clothes and stuff. This guy says he wants to have a child with me, once we have a kid he'll consider marrying me. Until then he can't. And he's been treating me well. He's supporting my kids in anyway he can😍 I don't know if it's a good idea to give him a child, given that he's been supportive. I'm also worried about Baby mama. They might get back together somehow. Will it be a good idea or not.

10/06/2026

🇿🇦 SHE CAUGHT HER BOYFRIEND CHEATING!!
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Hi Ask a Man South Africa. My boyfriend, he's 30, I'm 24 & we only been trying to build a relationship for a month & a few days now. We met on Facebook around March 2025 but I only got to text him back during the start of April. He's working at a restaurant, doesn'thave a matric. I'm a Bsc IT graduate (2025). While we were still going back & forth about meeting up, I realized that he's got female friend(s) when he told me that he is with his friend and she's not okay, she caught her boyfriend cheating. After a while, I told him I don't see myself being in a relationship with a man who's got female friends. He told me he's got female friends only because he doesn't have a girlfriend, but once he does get to be in a relationship, all that will end & also clarified that he wants me to be his girlfriend (I understood and took his words to heart). We first met in person around the first week of May (He came to pick me up, he has a car). He told me that he's got two kids [twins, a boy & a girl (5)], obviously not seeing eye-to-eye with the mother and asked if it was a deal-breaker for me, I told him no. We went on to the mall, he bought a few things and went to his house, chilled, watched movies & he cooked for us). While we were still there, his friend's boyfriend called and there they were talking about the cheating, the boyfriend ended up telling him that he wasn't comfortable with him being friends with his girl as he feels that his girl wants him in a romantic way. He then told him he wasn't attracted to her. Soon before he took me back home, I told him I still was not okay with being in a relationship with a man who's got female friends, he told me they were no longer friends I shouldn't worry about that, she only confides in him when things are hard for her. I just kept quiet but still wasn't okay with it.

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10/06/2026

Admin please approve
Guys maybe I'm the problem and I don't understand these new age kids. My little sister who is 25 born in 2001 and no kids just turned down marriage. The letter came to us in April and our dad asked her about it and she said yes it's for her and the date was set for this June but she called and said there won't be any lobola negotiations anymore and that her and the bf broke up. I think she is blowing things out of proportion because her reasons are not valid enough, she says the guy told her that she needs to stop wearing pants from now on and she said she was fine with not wearing pants at his home but not to stop wearing them at all, she says the guy was limiting her in terms of where and when she should go out and that it wasn't enough letting him know and he was saying she should ask for permission first and he will decide and that came across as controlling to her. And from what I know is that when you get married you cut down on going out, she doesn't groove but yena she does go out with friends a lot and I can see how that frustrates the guy. She says he was guilt tripping and saying things like "if you loved me, you would..." and to me that sounds like he was communicating the way he wants to be loved and lastly he says he was always criticizing her intelligence, career choices and he would disguise it as helping or teaching her but yena she doesn't take it that way. I tried talking to her after she explained all that and told her to not make decisions when angry especially big ones like this and she got angry and told me to go marry the guy if I want it that much. I'm worried about her and that this is something she might regret one day because these are things that they can work on. I think it's because she's doing well at her age she's a radiographer and making more than 400k per year and she thinks that having money is all that you need but other things matter too.

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10/06/2026

Copied!!jooooo i didnt even sleep last night,my Bf he was not working i supported him in any way you can when he was not working,so Now He Got a Substitute at This private School in Venda as we are in Venda..jo guys moguy called me Yesterday night to insult me calling Bana Baka Di Skopas/makipkip Amd that Im Ugly n now yena his about to earn a lot he'll get a Beautiful lady,jooo he even sent me 2 pics of this yellowbones...

Bo koties i helped this guy got a job Through my Uncle Kadi Connection tsa gae,also Amo thlatswe as His a sangoma n his things were not going well..

but today im no longer good enough.Tshabang banna ba Mavenda guys..But ill heal and Pay My Revenge Today

as for badi Insults please kopa leska nroga

08/06/2026

Copied!!hi I have a boyfriend we're not staying together he just rented a room for me and he's been taking a good care of me and my kids so last he came and slept the whole day I just kept quiet and watched TV so he woke up around 6pm and went out without saying a word I just kept quiet and then he came back again so when he came back I made food for him he said he is fine a tsena ka dikobong a robala then I took a bath after that ka robala nothing happened during the night mind you he takes time to come this side he says he is always busy so I thought he is tired so when he woke up in the morning he made food and took his car drove away without saying anything to me then he texted me saying why didn't I talk to him when he visited me and I told him u were asleep I thought ur tired hence I just kept quiet so it's been weeks fighting over this thing so yesterday he came during the day n I was at town but be ke saba ka khiya then he called me asking gore ke kae I told him I'm at town he was angry and started shouting me that why ke tswele without informing him gore keya kae and he locked the door a tsamaya le key and said he will come back a tlo txeya dilo tsa gage cause nna ke yile mojolong and I'm only dating with him so he came back around 7pm opened for n took few of his things n took the key with him n he said I'm being disrespectful so now he said I should choose weather to respect him and inform him everytime I go out no matter ke ya kae or I leave cause yena he can't stay with someone who don't respect him

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