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Scott LaPierre Ministries Scott LaPierre Ministries provides biblical teaching and resources to strengthen marriages, families, churches, and Christian discipleship through books, conferences, sermons, and online resources.

Your Marriage God's Way and its separately available workbook are flagship resources of Scott LaPierre Ministries.

Follow our current page for biblical teaching and ministry updates: https://www.facebook.com/ScottLaPierreMinistries/

Official website: https://www.scottlapierre.org/

We had such a wonderful time ministering to the people at Calvary Oro Valley 🎉 So many good conversations and a wonderfu...
08/31/2026

We had such a wonderful time ministering to the people at Calvary Oro Valley 🎉 So many good conversations and a wonderful conference. We pray the people live out what the Lord convicted them to do in their marriages ❤️

Thankful for their hospitality and encouragement!

In Christ,

Scott and Katie

On the plane to Tucson, Arizona for a marriage conference! 👉We are booking for 2027. Message us if you are interested in...
08/27/2026

On the plane to Tucson, Arizona for a marriage conference!

👉We are booking for 2027. Message us if you are interested in having us out and investing in the marriages in your church! 🙌

In Christ,
Scott and Katie

Most couples don't say their problem is exhaustion. They say short tempers, distance, conversations neither one has ener...
08/27/2026

Most couples don't say their problem is exhaustion. They say short tempers, distance, conversations neither one has energy to finish. But when I ask what their week looks like, the answer is always the same: it's full.

God rested on the seventh day — not because He was tired, but to set a pattern. And when He gave the command, He named the two seasons we'd most want to skip it: "In plowing time and in harvest you shall rest" (Exodus 34:21).

Most of us are in plowing time. The instruction stands anyway.

Learn what rest in marriage looks like when life feels too full, and how God's rhythm of work and rest renews couples.

Most marriages aren't damaged by the arguments couples have. They're worn down by the ones they never have.A birthday th...
08/21/2026

Most marriages aren't damaged by the arguments couples have. They're worn down by the ones they never have.

A birthday that felt thin. A Saturday that went a different direction than you pictured. A conversation you hoped for that never came. Nobody said anything — but something cooled.

James puts his finger on it: "You do not have, because you do not ask" (James 4:2).

We're not wrong to want good things from our spouse. But when a desire never gets spoken, it hardens into a demand — and our spouse is left failing a test they were never told about.

In this week's post I walk through four biblical steps for handling expectations: naming them before the Lord, speaking them plainly instead of hinting, releasing what we have no right to demand, and aiming our highest expectations at ourselves first.

Read it here 👉

Unspoken expectations in marriage breed resentment. Learn how to voice them, surrender them, and love your spouse the way Christ loves you.

Money arguments predict divorce more strongly than conflict over children, in-laws, or intimacy — and it holds true rega...
08/15/2026

Money arguments predict divorce more strongly than conflict over children, in-laws, or intimacy — and it holds true regardless of income.

But Jesus put His finger on why: "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also" (Matthew 6:21). Money fights are rarely about money.

This week's post walks through what Scripture says about handling finances as one flesh, four habits that turn money into common ground instead of a battleground, and three questions to talk through with your spouse.

Finances in marriage can divide or unite you. See how Scripture reshapes money, trust, and stewardship so you build your home together.

Most marriage advice looks inward — how a husband and wife treat each other behind closed doors. But Scripture also call...
08/08/2026

Most marriage advice looks inward — how a husband and wife treat each other behind closed doors. But Scripture also calls couples outward. Hospitality in marriage isn't about hosting the perfect dinner party. It's about deciding, together, that your home belongs to God and is meant to be shared. New post is up 👇

Discover what hospitality in marriage looks like biblically, and how opening your home together can strengthen your marriage and bless others.

Do you treat kindness in marriage as a mood, or a choice?The Bible doesn't wait for warm feelings before commanding kind...
07/30/2026

Do you treat kindness in marriage as a mood, or a choice?

The Bible doesn't wait for warm feelings before commanding kindness — it treats it as an action rooted in covenant love (the Hebrew word is chesed, first seen in the story of Ruth and Naomi).

Our newest post looks at what biblical kindness actually requires, what everyday unkindness looks like in a marriage, and practical ways to practice it — especially when it's hardest to give.

Read it here:

Kindness in marriage is more than being nice—it's covenant love in action. Discover the biblical chesed that strengthens a Christian home.

Your Marriage God's Way conference at Topeka Bible Church is underway! 🙏🙌👏
07/25/2026

Your Marriage God's Way conference at Topeka Bible Church is underway! 🙏🙌👏

Do you actually forgive your spouse — or just move on while quietly keeping score?Forgiveness in marriage isn't forgetti...
07/21/2026

Do you actually forgive your spouse — or just move on while quietly keeping score?

Forgiveness in marriage isn't forgetting, excusing, or the same as trust (trust has to be rebuilt slowly, over time). It's a decision to release the debt — the same way Christ already released yours (Ephesians 4:32).

In our newest post, we walk through what biblical forgiveness actually requires, six practical steps for forgiving your spouse, and three counterfeits to watch for.

Read it here:

What does forgiveness in marriage require? Explore what Scripture teaches and take practical steps to forgive like Christ forgave you.

Many marriage conflicts become destructive because each spouse focuses on changing the other person.“If you would listen...
07/15/2026

Many marriage conflicts become destructive because each spouse focuses on changing the other person.

“If you would listen, I wouldn’t raise my voice.”

“If you would lead, I wouldn’t pressure you.”

“If you would respect me, I would be more loving.”

But Scripture does not allow us to make our obedience dependent on our spouse’s behavior.

Self-control in marriage is not the ability to make your spouse act the way you think he or she should. It is the Spirit-enabled ability to bring your own thoughts, desires, words, tone, body, and reactions under the lordship of Jesus Christ.

Self-control says, “My conduct belongs to God.”

Sinful control says, “Your conduct must conform to my wishes.”

This new article looks at how husbands and wives can practice biblical self-control in their words, anger, thoughts, desires, finances, technology, and responses during conflict.

Read it here:

https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/self-control-in-marriage/

Self-control in marriage helps spouses govern words, anger, and desires by the Spirit instead of trying to control each other.

Hard seasons in marriage are not proof that a couple has failed.Every husband and wife will face trials, pressure, disap...
07/08/2026

Hard seasons in marriage are not proof that a couple has failed.

Every husband and wife will face trials, pressure, disappointment, weakness, and seasons that feel heavier than expected. The question is not whether hard seasons will come, but whether a husband and wife will face them together by faith.

In this post, I share biblical and practical encouragement for couples walking through difficult seasons, including how to avoid turning on each other, to pray before blaming, to speak gently, to serve in small ways, and to persevere together in Christ.

Read the post here:

Hard seasons in marriage can strengthen unity when couples trust Christ, bear burdens, repent, pray, and persevere together.

Any friends near Topeka, KS? Would love to see you there!
07/03/2026

Any friends near Topeka, KS? Would love to see you there!

Mark your calendar: Saturday, July 25, is set aside just for marriage. Pastor Scott LaPierre and his wife, Katie, are bringing their marriage ministry to TBC for a full day of biblically-rooted teaching you can put into practice right away — and it's completely free. Register by July 22 at https://discovertbc.churchcenter.com/registrations/events/3713523

Humility in marriage is one of the clearest ways husbands and wives display the heart of Christ.A proud spouse says, “I ...
07/01/2026

Humility in marriage is one of the clearest ways husbands and wives display the heart of Christ.

A proud spouse says, “I deserve better.”
A humble spouse says, “Lord, help me love, listen, repent, forgive, and serve in a way that honors You.”

Biblical humility does not mean ignoring sin or pretending problems do not exist. It means seeing ourselves rightly before God so we can treat our spouse graciously, honestly, and lovingly.

When husbands and wives learn to listen before defending, repent quickly, forgive freely, and serve without keeping score, marriage becomes a testimony of Christ’s love.

Read the full post here:
https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/humility-in-marriage/

Humility in marriage reflects Christ, lowers pride, and helps husbands and wives serve, listen, forgive, and pursue unity God’s way.

Patience in marriage is not pretending your spouse never irritates you. It is learning to respond to your spouse’s weakn...
06/24/2026

Patience in marriage is not pretending your spouse never irritates you. It is learning to respond to your spouse’s weaknesses, differences, delays, and sins in a way that reflects Christ’s patience toward you.

Marriage exposes impatience because marriage is close. You live together. You share schedules, responsibilities, parenting, finances, burdens, and weaknesses. The closeness that makes marriage such a gift also makes patience necessary.

Biblical patience is not weakness. It is strength under control. It is love that slows down before speaking, humility that remembers personal weakness, and faith that trusts God to work in your spouse without you trying to play the Holy Spirit.

“Love is patient and kind…” — 1 Corinthians 13:4

Read the full post here:
https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/patience-in-marriage/

Grow patience in marriage by bearing with your spouse biblically, showing grace, slowing down, and trusting God’s work in your home.

Complaining comes naturally to sinners. Thankfulness must be cultivated.In marriage, it is easy to notice what frustrate...
06/17/2026

Complaining comes naturally to sinners. Thankfulness must be cultivated.

In marriage, it is easy to notice what frustrates, disappoints, or feels unfair. But gratitude helps husbands and wives see God’s kindness, notice evidence of grace, and replace complaints with thankfulness.

This new post looks at how gratitude in marriage can change the atmosphere of a home—not by pretending problems do not exist, but by helping couples address them with humility, grace, and a Christ-centered perspective.

Read the full post here:
https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/gratitude-in-marriage/

Gratitude in marriage helps couples replace complaining with thankfulness, honor Christ, and see God’s kindness in daily life.

One of the simplest ways husbands and wives can show Christlike love is by listening well.James 1:19 says, “Let every pe...
06/10/2026

One of the simplest ways husbands and wives can show Christlike love is by listening well.

James 1:19 says, “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” That verse is wonderfully practical for marriage because many conflicts become worse when we are quick to defend ourselves, quick to correct, and slow to truly hear our spouse.

Biblical listening does not mean agreeing with sin, avoiding leadership, or pretending everything is fine. It means humbly seeking to understand your spouse before answering.

In this post, I share how husbands and wives can grow in listening, reduce conflict, and communicate with greater humility and love.

Read the post here:
https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/listening-in-marriage/

Listening in marriage helps couples obey James 1:19, reduce conflict, and show Christlike love by hearing each other biblically.

Marriage is not a sprint. It's a marathon.Too many people enter marriage expecting every season to feel easy, romantic, ...
06/04/2026

Marriage is not a sprint. It's a marathon.

Too many people enter marriage expecting every season to feel easy, romantic, and fulfilling. But marriage isn't measured by how you love each other on your best days. It's measured by how you love each other through the hard days.

There will be seasons when one spouse is struggling. Seasons of financial pressure.
Seasons of sickness.
Seasons of exhaustion from raising children.
Seasons when communication isn't what it should be. Seasons when life simply feels heavy.

Those are the moments when grace becomes so important.

👉 A strong marriage isn't two perfect people who never disappoint each other. It's two imperfect people who keep extending grace, choosing forgiveness, and honoring the commitment they made before God.

When you said, "for better or worse," you weren't making a promise for the easy days. You were making a covenant for all the days.

The couples who make it for decades aren't usually the ones who never faced difficulties. They're the ones who refused to quit when difficulties came.

"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends." — 1 Corinthians 13:7-8

"And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony." — Colossians 3:14

If you're walking through a hard season in your marriage, don't lose heart.
Keep showing grace.
Keep praying.
Keep serving.
Keep your eyes on Christ.
Keep remembering that marriage is a lifetime commitment, and God is faithful to strengthen those who trust Him.

The goal isn't just to finish the race. It's to finish it together.

👉 Yourmarriagegodsway.org

Gentle words in marriage can change the direction of a conversation.Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath,...
06/03/2026

Gentle words in marriage can change the direction of a conversation.

Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Every married couple knows how quickly words can escalate. One careless sentence invites another. One harsh tone produces defensiveness. One impatient answer can turn a small disagreement into a painful argument.

But God’s Word gives us a better way.

Gentle speech does not mean avoiding truth. It does not mean pretending sin is harmless. It does not mean becoming passive. Biblical gentleness is strength under control. It speaks truth with humility, patience, and love.

Read the full post here:

Gentle words in marriage help couples calm conflict, honor Christ, and speak with grace instead of harshness.

05/28/2026

Two marriage conferences this summer! One in July in Topeka, Kansas and another in Tucson, Arizona in August! Send us your email to get more info!

There can be so much joy in a Christian marriage when even one spouse decides, “By God’s grace, I am going to love anywa...
05/28/2026

There can be so much joy in a Christian marriage when even one spouse decides, “By God’s grace, I am going to love anyway.” ❤️

Love when it’s easy is common. Love when it’s hard is Christlike.

Sometimes marriage feels sweet and effortless. Other times it feels painful, lonely, disappointing, or exhausting. But joy in marriage is not ultimately found in getting everything we want from our spouse. It is found in walking closely with Christ and choosing to love the way He loves us.

When one husband or one wife says:
“I will speak kindly even when I’m frustrated.”
“I will forgive even when I’ve been hurt.”
“I will serve even when I don’t feel appreciated.”
“I will pray instead of attack.”
…something beautiful begins to happen.

Not because we are pretending everything is perfect, but because the Spirit of God is at work in a heart that is surrendered to Him.

Our first love must always be Christ. Not our spouse. Not our marriage. Not our expectations. Not our feelings.

People will fail us sometimes. Even good spouses will disappoint us. But Jesus never will.

When Christ is our first love, we stop demanding that marriage carry the weight only God can carry. We stop looking to our spouse to complete us, rescue us, or satisfy every longing of our hearts. And strangely enough, that is often when marriage becomes sweeter.

A marriage centered on Christ can have joy even in difficult seasons because joy is no longer rooted in circumstances alone. It is rooted in Him. ❤️

“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” — 1 Peter 4:8

“We love because he first loved us.” — 1 John 4:19

Check out more like this at: yourmarriagegodsway.org

And grab our best selling, biblical marriage book to go even deeper! https://linktw.in/YdlWrZ 👈🙌❤️🎉

In Christ,
Scott and Katie

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Contentment in marriage does not mean pretending your spouse has no weaknesses. It means learning to receive the spouse ...
05/27/2026

Contentment in marriage does not mean pretending your spouse has no weaknesses. It means learning to receive the spouse God gave you with gratitude, humility, and faith.

Discontentment often grows quietly. A husband begins noticing what his wife does not do. A wife begins focusing on what her husband is not. Over time, the heart starts believing, “My life would be happier if my spouse were different.”

But Christian contentment is rooted in something deeper than our circumstances. It is rooted in confidence that God is wise, good, and sovereign over our lives—including our marriages.

Philippians 4:11 says, “I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.”

Contentment must be learned, and marriage is one of the places God teaches it.

Read the full post here:

Contentment in marriage helps couples replace comparison and criticism with gratitude, trust in God, and faithful love.

👉 How we speak about our spouse to our children matters more than we can understand.When a husband constantly criticizes...
05/24/2026

👉 How we speak about our spouse to our children matters more than we can understand.

When a husband constantly criticizes his wife in front of the children, or a wife tears down her husband with her words, it doesn’t just hurt the marriage—it shapes the hearts of the children listening.

Our words teach our children how to honor, how to love, and how to view marriage.

Of course, no spouse is perfect. Marriage has struggles, weaknesses, and moments that require grace. But our homes should be places where honor is practiced, forgiveness is modeled, and encouragement is spoken.

Children flourish when they hear their parents speak kindly about one another. They feel safer, more secure, and gain a healthier picture of love, commitment, and biblical marriage.

Let’s be husbands and wives who build one another up with our words—not only for our spouse’s sake, but for our children’s sake too. They are watching and learning so much from us everyday.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up...” — Ephesians 4:29

“Love covers a multitude of sins.” — 1 Peter 4:8

“Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” — Proverbs 31:28

For more biblical encouragement check out our website: yourmarriagegodsway.org

A happy Christian marriage is often less about finding the perfect spouse and more about choosing to love your spouse bi...
05/23/2026

A happy Christian marriage is often less about finding the perfect spouse and more about choosing to love your spouse biblically.

Strong marriages are built when husbands and wives learn to focus on each other’s strengths instead of obsessing over weaknesses. When we choose patience over irritation, grace over criticism, and service over selfishness, marriages flourish.

That doesn’t mean ignoring sin. Sin should be lovingly addressed according to God’s Word. But many marriages become miserable because spouses constantly dwell on every flaw, every annoyance, and every disappointment instead of overlooking minor offenses and remembering all the good in the other person.

Scripture says:

“Love is patient and kind… it is not irritable or resentful.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4–5

“Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you.” — Colossians 3:13

“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” — Philippians 2:4

A Christ-centered marriage says: “I know you’re imperfect… and I’m choosing to love you anyway, just as Christ loves me.”

The happiest marriages are filled with two people who have stopped keeping score and started extending grace. ❤️

For more biblical marriage advice, be sure to check out our website: yourmarriagegodsway.org and please consider sharing this post! You never know how marriages are hurting ❤️

Noticing your spouse’s burdens is one of the quiet ways husbands and wives can love like Christ.Sometimes we are willing...
05/06/2026

Noticing your spouse’s burdens is one of the quiet ways husbands and wives can love like Christ.

Sometimes we are willing to help when asked, but biblical love grows deeper when we learn to notice the weight our spouse is carrying before they have to say, “I need help.”

Galatians 6:2 says, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

In marriage, this might look like listening more carefully, taking ownership of a household responsibility, noticing emotional weariness, praying for your spouse, or simply asking, “What are you carrying that I may not be seeing?”

A Christ-centered marriage is strengthened when both spouses can say, “You do not have to carry that alone.”

Read the full post here:

Noticing your spouse’s burdens helps you obey Galatians 6:2, love with humility, and strengthen marriage unity.

Having you been wanting a study Bible? THIS IS A GREAT ONE AND A GREAT DEAL! 👏
05/04/2026

Having you been wanting a study Bible? THIS IS A GREAT ONE AND A GREAT DEAL! 👏

ESV Study Bible, Personal Size (TruTone, Brown)

Defensiveness in marriage can turn a simple conversation into an argument within seconds.A spouse raises a concern, and ...
04/29/2026

Defensiveness in marriage can turn a simple conversation into an argument within seconds.

A spouse raises a concern, and instead of listening, we explain, excuse, interrupt, or bring up what they did wrong. But Scripture calls us to something better:

“Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” James 1:19

Humility listens. Pride defends. A Christ-centered marriage grows when husbands and wives learn to receive correction, confess sin, and care more about honoring the Lord than winning the argument.

Read the full post here:

Defensiveness in marriage hurts communication. Learn how to listen humbly, receive correction, confess sin, and grow together.

👉Men need strong, biblical encouragement now more than ever.One of the greatest privileges I have is speaking at men’s c...
04/25/2026

👉Men need strong, biblical encouragement now more than ever.

One of the greatest privileges I have is speaking at men’s conferences—calling men to step into the roles God has given them as leaders, husbands, fathers, and servants in the church. I truly love doing it… because I know what’s at stake.

I’m at a men’s conference this weekend—yesterday, today, and tomorrow—teaching and encouraging men to stand firm in their faith and lead well. It’s been such a blessing to see men hungry for God’s Word and eager to grow.

When men lead well, families flourish.
When men lead well, churches are strengthened.
But when men are not being led spiritually… everything suffers.

I meet so many men who are trying to figure it out on their own. They’re carrying burdens quietly, lacking encouragement, accountability, and clear biblical direction. That’s why men’s conferences matter. They create space for men to be challenged, sharpened, and reminded of who God has called them to be.

The Bible is clear that men are called to lead—not passively, not selfishly, but sacrificially and faithfully.

“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” — 1 Corinthians 16:13

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” — Ephesians 5:25

“The head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” — 1 Corinthians 11:3

“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” — Proverbs 27:17

My desire is to see men grounded in God’s Word, leading their homes with humility, and serving their churches with conviction. Because when men are strengthened spiritually, it doesn’t just impact them—it blesses everyone around them.

👉If your church has never hosted a men’s conference, I would encourage you to pray about it. The investment is worth it.👈

If you’re interested in having me speak at a men’s conference at your church, I would love to connect. Please reach out!

Strong men don’t usually happen by accident. They are discipled, encouraged, and called higher.

And when that happens… the ripple effects are eternal.

In Christ, Scott

Ps have you gotten a copy of my best-selling marriage book? Check it out here: https://linktw.in/YdlWrZ (aff Link)

Do you want your marriage to grow spiritually, but you are not sure where to begin?One of the simplest and most powerful...
04/23/2026

Do you want your marriage to grow spiritually, but you are not sure where to begin?

One of the simplest and most powerful things you can do is open God’s Word together. Bible reading in marriage helps husbands and wives grow in unity, humility, and Christ-centered love.

You do not need a perfect plan or a polished devotional time. You simply need to sit under the authority of Scripture together and let God shape your hearts.

In this post, I share why reading the Bible together matters, how it strengthens your marriage, and how to start simply and faithfully.

Read here: https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/bible-reading-in-marriage/

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly...” — Colossians 3:16

Bible reading in marriage helps couples grow in unity, humility, and Christ-centered love through God’s Word together.

Have you gotten a copy of our best selling, BIBLICAL marriage book? Which chapter is your favorite?? https://linktw.in/Y...
04/22/2026

Have you gotten a copy of our best selling, BIBLICAL marriage book? Which chapter is your favorite??

https://linktw.in/YdlWrZ (aff Link)

Your Marriage God's Way: A Biblical Guide to a Christ-Centered Relationship

What to pray for your spouse is something many husbands and wives want to know, but Scripture gives us wonderful directi...
04/15/2026

What to pray for your spouse is something many husbands and wives want to know, but Scripture gives us wonderful direction.

Instead of praying only about temporary needs, we can pray for our spouse’s walk with God, holiness, wisdom, protection from temptation, joy, and faithfulness in marriage.

If you want biblical prayer points for your husband or wife, I hope this post encourages you:

https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/what-to-pray-for-your-spouse/

What to pray for your spouse is clearer in Scripture than many couples realize. Use these biblical prayer points to strengthen your marriage.

What if one of the best ways to strengthen your marriage is to stop asking, “How can my spouse serve me?” and start aski...
04/08/2026

What if one of the best ways to strengthen your marriage is to stop asking, “How can my spouse serve me?” and start asking, “How can I serve my spouse like Christ?”

Jesus came not to be served, but to serve—and Christian marriage should reflect that same humility, sacrifice, and love.

In this new post, I share what it means to serve your spouse like Christ and how such daily, practical service can strengthen your marriage.

Read here: https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/serve-your-spouse-like-christ/

Learn what it means to serve your spouse like Christ with biblical humility, sacrificial love, and practical ways to strengthen your marriage.

Have you ever noticed how easy it is in marriage to bring up something from the past during a current disagreement? But ...
04/01/2026

Have you ever noticed how easy it is in marriage to bring up something from the past during a current disagreement? But when confessed and forgiven sins keep getting dragged back into the conversation, trust erodes, peace disappears, and marriage begins to feel unsafe. In this post, I share how husbands and wives can stop bringing up past sins in marriage and instead pursue biblical forgiveness, grace, and healing. Read here: https://yourmarriagegodsway.org/stop-bringing-up-past-sins-in-marriage/

Learn how to stop bringing up past sins in marriage and pursue biblical forgiveness, peace, and trust in a Christ-centered relationship.

Many couples think the purpose of conflict is to solve the problem:Who was rightWhat happenedWho said whatHow to fix the...
03/31/2026

Many couples think the purpose of conflict is to solve the problem:

Who was right
What happened
Who said what
How to fix the issue

And once the issue is “settled,” they assume the conflict is over.

But Scripture points to a far deeper goal. Resolution fixes the issue but reconciliation restores the relationship. A couple can resolve a disagreement—
and still feel distant, tense, guarded, or disconnected.

They may:
Stop arguing
Move on with daily life
Resume normal routines
…but never truly feel close again.

The issue was solved.
The intimacy was not.

In Christ,
Scott and Katie

Ps. This is from our upcoming book on Communication and Conflict Resolution in Marriage- God's Way.

Be sure to check out our website for more biblical marriage insights: yourmarriagegodsway.org

Conflict Reveals What We WorshipConflict presses us—and whatever is in the heart rises to the surface. Conflict reveals ...
03/31/2026

Conflict Reveals What We Worship

Conflict presses us—and whatever is in the heart rises to the surface. Conflict reveals what we value most:

Comfort?
Control?
Being right?
Reputation?
Avoiding discomfort?
Or honoring Christ?

James 4:1 asks, “What causes quarrels and fights among you?” Then he answers: our desires.

Conflict often flows not from external issues, but internal idols.

In Christ,

Scott and Katie

(This comes from our upcoming books on communication and conflict resolution! Check out more biblical resources at our website: yourmarriagegodsway.org )

Even though words can wound deeply,God can heal deeply.The wounds of speech are real.But so is the power of grace.The pa...
03/31/2026

Even though words can wound deeply,
God can heal deeply.

The wounds of speech are real.
But so is the power of grace.

The pain is real.
But so is the promise of redemption.

Your marriage is not defined by its worst words—
but by the God who restores broken hearts.

In Christ,
Scott and Katie

This comes from chapter 9 in our upcoming book Communication and Conflict Resolution in Marriage- God's Way.

Be sure to check out our website for more biblical resources on marriage: yourmarriagegodsway.org

This should not be! If marriages are strong then the church is strong, but if marriages are weak then the church is weak...
03/30/2026

This should not be! If marriages are strong then the church is strong, but if marriages are weak then the church is weak! We would love to partner with you and your church to help strengthen marriages!

Feel like you can't afford to fly us out? Did you know that we offer live stream options? Or recorded conference options? We also offer bulk book order specials!

Message us today and let's get started on strengthening the marriages in your church! 🙌👏🎉

In Christ,

Scott and Katie

Yourmarriagegodsway.org

👉 Complementarian Marriage Is Not What the World Says Egalitarians would have us believe that if you’re complementarian,...
03/28/2026

👉 Complementarian Marriage Is Not What the World Says

Egalitarians would have us believe that if you’re complementarian, you’re a doormat… that your husband dominates you… that you never get to share your thoughts or voice concerns.

That simply isn’t true.

A biblical complementarian marriage is not about control—it’s about God-designed partnership. A godly husband doesn’t silence his wife… he values her. He seeks her out. He listens. He cares about what she thinks.

My husband constantly seeks my advice and opinion. He truly considers what I say. Sometimes he agrees, sometimes he doesn’t—but I am heard, valued, and loved.

And as wives, we are called to be helpers—not by force, but by joyful design. There is wisdom in not striving, not pushing, not dominating… but trusting God’s order and waiting to be invited into that counsel.
When lived out biblically, complementarian marriage is not oppressive—it is beautifully balanced.

Ephesians 5:22–23 — “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church…”

Ephesians 5:25 — “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…”

Genesis 2:18 — “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

1 Peter 3:7 — “Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way… showing honor to the woman…”

Don’t let non-biblical voices redefine what God has already made good.

I feel most alive when I am walking in God’s design—submitting to my husband, supporting him, and serving alongside him… while he lovingly leads and seeks me out as his helper.

We truly complement one another—just as God intended. 🎉

In Christ, Katie

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