07/30/2026
🚨 If a new mom says she wants to hurt herself or her baby, take it seriously.
I want every family member, friend, and healthcare provider to hear this.
⚠️ If a new mom says she’s having thoughts of harming herself or her baby, don’t brush it off. Stay with her and help her get evaluated by a medical professional immediately.
Here’s an important distinction.
Many moms experience intrusive thoughts as part of postpartum OCD. These thoughts are unwanted, distressing, and completely against what they want. They often cause intense anxiety, and moms with postpartum OCD usually go to great lengths to protect their baby because the thoughts horrify them. These moms need compassion, proper assessment, and treatment, but intrusive thoughts alone are not the same as wanting to act on them.
However, if a mom says she wants to die, believes she may act on thoughts of harming herself or her baby, says she can’t keep herself or her baby safe, or is experiencing hallucinations, delusions, paranoia, or confusion, that is a psychiatric emergency. She should not be left alone while getting immediate medical care. Depending on the evaluation, inpatient psychiatric treatment may be the safest option.
I know this because in 2014, after giving birth to my daughter, I became one of those women. I developed postpartum psychosis, lost touch with reality, and nearly ended both my life and my daughter’s. Thankfully, my family recognized that I needed emergency help. They intervened, got me the treatment I needed, and while I recovered, I wasn’t left alone to care for my daughter until my treatment team determined it was safe. That time allowed my brain to heal, and today I have made a full recovery.
I’m sharing my story because intervention saves lives. Today, I have the privilege of educating families about maternal mental health so they know what warning signs to look for and when to speak up. If you feel like your loved one isn’t being heard, keep advocating. Tell providers exactly what she’s saying. Ask for an urgent psychiatric evaluation. And if you believe she or her baby is in immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency department immediately.
The biggest takeaway?
❤️Not all scary thoughts mean the same thing. But every mom deserves to be heard, evaluated, and connected to the right level of care.
⭐️Early treatment saves lives. Recovery is possible. I know because I’m living proof.