Not Alone

10/31/2019

Heyy yinz! It’s been awhile since I posted to my blog because I haven’t really felt compelled to. But recent events in my life have me thinking otherwise so I posted again. Please check it out. It would mean a lot to me (ADTR reference)
-Paige 🖤

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10/29/2019

Self-care tip number 1. Saying “no”. Easy enough to say right?

WRONG!

I’m terrible at this. I feel so much guilt & anxiety when I have to tell people no whenever I don’t have a “good enough reason” (because you know just not wanting to isn’t good enough) I can feel my face heat up & I know the person can see it all in my face because well I’m the type of person who can’t find their expressions.

I always hear people say “it’s okay to say no” but sometimes our minds don’t tell us that. Our mind tells us that if we say no, that person will hate us. They will never ask us to anything or to go anywhere every again. But we need to reteach ourselves that it’s okay to say no & on the flip side we need to accept that people will give us no answers.

It’s okay to be slightly disappointed when you get these answers but reach out to the person afterwards so they know it’s okay, that you still want them in your life. It will make them 100% feel better.

Remember to show & tell people how much they mean to you.
-Paige 🖤

10/22/2019

Heyy yinz! It’s me Paige! Today is my birthday & I can’t believe it. 29. In all honesty I never thought I would see it. I thought so many times I would have been gone by 21 or even 16. But I’m not, yes there are days I still wonder why & that’s okay. It’s okay to take it day by day. It’s okay to not know what the future holds for you. It’s okay to not know what you want to be when you grow up (still figuring out that one) it’s all okay. The biggest thing we need to remember is that we are stronger than our mind let’s us think. We can get through the rough patches & dance in the brighter days. We can celebrate the little things. Every day we choose to continue on is a day we can celebrate. Most importantly remember you are here for a reason (yes I have to constantly remind myself this) & there are so many people who are happy you are here, even if they basically never show it. & if all of that fails remember little old me over here at Not Alone is happy you are here. I’m happy that you are making progress in your life. I’m happy you are choosing you. I’m happy for you, because remember you are Not Alone.

10/18/2019

So here’s the thing. Sometimes we feel alone. Very alone. We look around & we kind of feel like we are drowning but to ask for help or reach out for help feels like you’re burdening those around you with your issues when you know they have their own.
But guess what?

IT’S OKAY!

It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to take time for yourself. It’s okay to put yourself first. It’s 100% okay.
It’s also okay to reach out to the person you haven’t heard from in awhile. It’s okay to reach out the person who keeps posting concerning things, even if you haven’t talked in years or ever. It’s okay to show people that even though you’re only one person that one person on this planet cares.
Be that person. Be the person you want people to be for you. Be the real friend. Even if you think you have failed before try again. Always better yourself. Always improve. Be the good & change you want to see in the world. -Paige

P.S. if anyone ever wants a coffee date I’m down.

10/16/2019

10/10/2019

In honor of World Mental Health Day we wanted to share some of our favorite ways to easily care about ourselves during the fall season. Remember self care is not selfish.

09/25/2019

Hey you!
Yes you reading this.
You are strong.
You are important.
You will get through this.
You are Not Alone.

09/24/2019

I was just talking about this with some people. Most of the people in my life tell me to “just get over it” or “snap out of it already” or my favorite one “pray on it” no it’s not like that at all hate to break it to you. I understand you don’t understand since you haven’t had it affect you but you also need to understand that it’s not that easy for us who struggle with it. Understand each other on a human level is what we need. We need support. We need love. We need constant reminders we are not alone in this crappy time. If the people in our lives learn these little things we can help each other get through the rough patches to see the awesomeness on the other side. Think about it. Stop the stigma. Learn about each other. We can get through this together. We are Not Alone.
-Paige

09/16/2019

I can remember in college my “guidance” counselor (I use this very loosely with this person) told me anxiety was FAKE. He told me it was all in my head (duh) & I was “making it up” (his exact words to me) as I sat there & balled my eyes out in his office after failing a test that I not only studied for but also made sure I got a tutor for. I can remember going into the test feeling nervous which was normal for myself. Sitting down & looking at the test & completely blanking on everything. I started breathing heavy & wanted to just get up & walk out because I was about to cry & possibly rock in the corner but I forced myself to attempt the test (100% my choice)

After I got the test back & I was clearly calm again I read the questions & knew at least 80% of the answers. This is when I realized he was wrong. Yes anxiety is all in our head, hence why it’s called a mental illness, but it’s real. It’s really real. We can force ourselves through it but that doesn’t mean we will always succeed & that’s okay.

For people who don’t struggle with this it’s just as important for you to know some common signs that people express when they are feeling anxious. It’s nice to have people who are on your side & are willing to walk through it with you. It’s important to have someone there who is paying attention & taking time for you. Please remember everyone is different which is what makes our world go round but just because you can handle one thing doesn’t mean the person next to you can’t. We don’t know each other’s struggles & who knows that failing test, even if it’s their first, could be the straw that breaks them.

Be kind to each other & support each other. We are all here for you & you are Not Alone.
-Paige

09/10/2019

Since it’s World Su***de Prevention Day we here at Not Alone thought it would be good to throw some positivity out there so below I want to know one dream everyone has. No matter how small you think it is I want to know it!

-Paige

08/21/2019

Some Wednesday motivation for yinz.

08/19/2019

The world outside is crazy & scary at times. Instead of focusing on all the bad & evil that’s happening in the world let’s starting looking for the positive & the people helping.