DHQ is a society of like minded men and women comprised mostly of celebrities and industry professionals committed to stamping out intimate partner (domestic violence) violence before it happens.
2. How does DHQ work? We’re in the process of constructing “time out” resorts nationwide. Men (root participants of IPV) will have a “new” alternative when faced with sudden or chronic aggressive IP conf
rontations. Men can simply say “Time Out!”, press pause and ease away to safety (without resorting to violent response urges).
3. What is at these “time out” resorts? Free food, male companionship. Overnight/extended stay housing facilities, professional counseling and IP intervention, sports activities (aggression release), yoga-meditation, solitude, spiritual counseling, bike paths, nature walks, free transportation to and from, laundry facilities, convenience stores, everything a man needs to “ get-a-way” for awhile to find himself.
4. Are there any “classes” for men? We offer a full range of interpersonal (IP) classes featuring volunteer and state licensed therapists: Anger Management, Trigger-Control, Communication Techniques, Self awareness measures, and more. We also offer classes for women and children. Our goal is the immediate cessation of violence, followed by empowerment and “avoidance” education for the whole family.
5. Do men and women “mix” at these campuses? NO! Strict separation is observed at all times. Men’s facilities are sequestered in a protected "gated" community. Here's a typical scenario:
"John" feels an argument with his IP (intimate partner) approaching, he says "Time out! I need a break." He has two options. He can motor to a DHQ facility himself, or he can step outside and phone us (tentatively 1-800-Donthit or 1-800-timeout). We'll send a driver to him. (Many times this is a local taxi to speed things up). Once at the DHQ complex, he checks in with our intake worker (a professional counselor), telling her “what happened.” Once debriefed he is free to roam the facilities. He may play basketball, or “hit” the heavy bag. He may choose to “plop” down in front of a big screen with other men. Meanwhile the counselor contacts John’s IP to find out “what happened.” John uses the facilities until he’s ready to “reintegrate.” The counselor establishes a POR (plan of return) speaking with both John & “Jane” via conference phone. Once all parties are secure with the POR, John is free to return home. He checks in (via phone) with his counselor, as does his IP. Both are encouraged to attend a class. The threat of immediate violence was avoided. And the couple now has a concerned advocate either can speak with or email. The rebuilding process has begun.
