08/26/2026
Talking about death won’t make it happen sooner, and staying silent won’t hold it back.
I am not ready to go yet, I have so much more living to do, but working in this field has opened my eyes to how fragile life is. It has helped me to lay down my past guilt and regret, and hold tightly to what really matters which is being fully present in mylife and living it the very best way I possibly can.
My hope for myself, for you, for all of us, is that when that time does come, we are cared for, supported, and remembered in a way that truly honors us.
I don’t want someone else choosing how I am cared for, who sits at my bedside, what music is being played, or how I am celebrated after I die. I want this done my way. I have everything in writing down to my 12-hour playlist of music that takes me back through my entire life.
I want my people to know what matters most to me. I also don’t want to put them in the position of having to make decisions on my behalf, which could leave them wondering if they honored me well.
When my brother died, I sat alone at the funeral home, guessing at what he would have wanted. I did my best, but I still wonder if I got it right.
Please talk to your people. Write it down. Make sure those you love aren’t left guessing when the time comes. Talking about it won’t change the ending, it just lets your wishes be known so that your life can be honored in the way you want it to be.
xo
Gabby
I offer a class that focuses on helping you design your own end-of-life plan, it’s called “Your End of Life Wishes,” and can be found on my website.
