I Have The Right To

I Have The Right To We are the hub for middle and high school students, parents, and educators looking for information, support and avenues of action against s*xual assault.

We’re officially on Substack!Subscribe using the link in our bio, or comment “Substack” and we’ll send you the link dire...
08/27/2026

We’re officially on Substack!

Subscribe using the link in our bio, or comment “Substack” and we’ll send you the link directly.

I Have The Right To is creating a new space where young people can share what they’re thinking, questioning, researching, and creating alongside the educators, facilitators, advocates, and leaders working with them.

We’ll talk about student leadership, s*xual assault prevention, survivor support, healthy relationships, digital safety, masculinity, and what young people are actually navigating in K–12 schools and on college campuses.

Expect student-written pieces, intern projects, fresh perspectives, practical resources, deeper conversations, and voices from across the I Have The Right To community.

We have a lot we want to share, and we’re just getting started.

Let’s unpack the Marry Harry reunion aka the messiest reunion I’ve truly ever seen. POV: consent, healthy relationships ...
08/27/2026

Let’s unpack the Marry Harry reunion aka the messiest reunion I’ve truly ever seen. POV: consent, healthy relationships and violence prevention educator ⚡️

Follow for more pop culture x violence prevention and comment “books” for 45 of my fav recs on this topic ⬇️

We’re proud to welcome Derrick Hurley and Peter “Pete” LeBoutillier to the I Have The Right To Board of Directors.Derric...
08/26/2026

We’re proud to welcome Derrick Hurley and Peter “Pete” LeBoutillier to the I Have The Right To Board of Directors.

Derrick joins the Board after a 37-year career in technology and executive leadership, including senior roles with NCR and Retalix. In 2022, he published Antiguan Justice: A Father’s Fight, which tells the story of his daughter’s assault while studying in Antigua and his family’s pursuit of justice. That experience led Derrick to dedicate his work to supporting survivors of s*xual assault, trafficking, and child s*xual abuse. He has volunteered with organizations including RAINN and Operation Light Shine and has become an important part of I Have The Right To as a facilitator, advocate, and speaker on trauma, masculinity, survivor support, and prevention.

Pete is a former professional hockey player, business owner, coach, mentor, and speaker. After playing in the NHL, AHL, and Europe, including with the Mighty Ducks of Anaheim, he carried the lessons of leadership, trust, resilience, and accountability into his work with businesses, teams, and young athletes. Today, he is the owner of Pro Motion Hockey and Associate Hockey Director for Team Maryland, where he coaches and mentors young athletes. Through his work with I Have The Right To, Pete has helped lead conversations with students about leadership, healthy masculinity, empathy, respect, and personal accountability.

Both Derrick and Pete have contributed directly to our work with students and communities. As Board members, they bring experience, perspective, and a shared commitment to survivor support, s*xual assault prevention, healthy masculinity, and creating safer cultures for young people.

We’re grateful to have them helping shape what comes next for I Have The Right To.

In 2019, I sat in an 8-hour justice circle with the man who SA’d me. Here are five reasons I fought for Restorative Just...
08/26/2026

In 2019, I sat in an 8-hour justice circle with the man who SA’d me. Here are five reasons I fought for Restorative Justice instead of proceeding to a criminal trial 🩵

Ps. It’s okay if your version of meaningful justice looks different than mine. Survivors are not a monolith and neither are the people who abuse us. This was what was most deeply healing and just for me.

⬇️🩵 to learn more about restorative & transformative justice, comment “guide” for my resource guide ft. Orgs, books, podcasts and more

⬇️📕My book, “If I Had Known Then: A Memoir of S.xual Assault, Hope & My Battle to Re-Imagine Justice” comes out February 9th, 2027. Comment “First Wave” & I’ll send you the details along with 3 letters I wrote and audio recorded. One for my younger self who had just been SA’d, one for all survivors who have written me and one for future readers💌

08/25/2026

Believing a survivor is not the end of your responsibility. It is the beginning.

You can tell someone, “I believe you,” but those words lose meaning when your actions continue to validate, protect, include, or make excuses for the person who harmed them.

Support is more than what you say in private. It is what you do afterward.

It means refusing to minimize the harm because acknowledging it is uncomfortable. It means not expecting survivors to quietly accept their abuser’s continued access to the same spaces, relationships, or communities. And it means understanding that pretending nothing happened can cause harm all over again.

Belief matters. What you do with that belief matters, too.

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08/24/2026

How do you make people stop and truly see modern slavery?

Humanitarian photographer and activist Lisa Kristine joins Aspire the I Have The Right To Podcast to discuss documenting human trafficking, the power of responsible storytelling, and why protecting dignity matters when sharing survivors’ stories.

The conversation explores how photography can bring exploitation, coercion, grooming, and trafficking into public view without losing sight of the people behind the stories.

Listen to the full episode of Aspire now, link in bio!

Meeting survivors where we’re at in our healing is so important. If I’m in a triggered state and someone asks me, “what ...
08/21/2026

Meeting survivors where we’re at in our healing is so important. If I’m in a triggered state and someone asks me, “what would make you feel safe right now?”, the answer feels completely out of reach. But, if someone asks me, “what would make you feel 1% more safe right now?”, my shoulders soften. I’m able to think of several answers and possibilities.

⬇️🩵 comment “books” & I’ll send you 45 of my fav recs on healing trauma and reimagining justice

What happens when a child knows something is wrong, but the adults around him are not ready to name it?If I Tell You is ...
08/21/2026

What happens when a child knows something is wrong, but the adults around him are not ready to name it?

If I Tell You is a story about family, silence, survivor autonomy, victim blaming, reporting, and the way trauma can ripple through the people who love a survivor.

Told largely through the eyes of a 12-year-old boy trying to understand a family secret, the film also captures something we believe deeply: young people are shaped by the adult world long before they have the language to fully understand it. Avoiding conversations about consent, s*x, relationships, and s*xual violence does not mean children stop noticing.

Directed by Tessa Blake and based on Lisa O’Donnell’s acclaimed novel Closed Doors, If I Tell You features etienne kellici , Allison Miller, Bill Heck, Christopher Jackson, Carmela Zumbado, Carol Kane, Kennedi Butler, , and .

IF I TELL YOU is coming to theaters across the country this August! 🎟️ August 21: Special screenings begin in Minnesota 🎟️ August 27: Playing in theaters nationwide for ONE NIGHT ONLY 🎟️ August 28: Weeklong engagements begin in New York & Los Angeles

This is a film for survivors, families, educators, and anyone thinking about how we support survivors while creating space for the difficult conversations young people are already trying to understand.

Presented by Suncatcher Productions & The Dog Lives. Production by Erin Mae Miller

Tickets and showtimes: IfITellYouFilm.com

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Somewhere along the way, we decided that once a girl turns 18, she should have “known better.” Known better than to trus...
08/20/2026

Somewhere along the way, we decided that once a girl turns 18, she should have “known better.” Known better than to trust him. Go there. Wear that. Leave her drink alone. Put herself in that situation.

But r*pe does not become less horrific because someone is 18, 21, or 40. Adulthood does not make a person more responsible for someone else choosing to violate them.

So when we say “believe women,” we are not saying throw out evidence or due process in a court of law. We are saying to believe that harm happened. We’re saying to take that harm seriously without immediately searching for what they should have done differently

🎧From my July 2025 conversation with Katie Couric.

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08/20/2026

Do you know what the Red Zone is?

The start of the fall semester through Thanksgiving is known as the Red Zone, a period when the risk of campus s*xual assault is especially high. For students navigating new independence, new communities, and pressure to fit in, a one-time orientation conversation is not enough.

Campus safety requires more than awareness. Students need practical tools, accessible resources, clear accountability, and communities that know how to step in before harm happens.

Your first semester should be about finding your place, not fearing for your safety.

Follow IHTRT for real resources, education, and campus safety guidance through the Red Zone and beyond.

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