01/23/2026
Cliff Jones
22 Years Ago…
23 January 2004…a day that will always be on my mind and in my heart. Why? That’s the day Wendi had a D&C procedure, officially marking the end of our first and only pregnancy. This date is not only a recurring entry on my Outlook calendar, but it’s also daily reminder that what was “supposed to be,” isn’t; and instead, a huge scar is still on my heart. Most days, this memory sits in its box with the lid on it; but some days, like today, thoughts, questions, and the memory of 23 January 2004 come pouring out, like Niagara Falls in the spring.
This event was precipitated by some symptoms Wendi experienced starting on Christmas Day 2003. Thankfully, we were with some amazing friends that day, one of which was a nurse. They were able to assess the situation and walk us through what might be going on. This led to doctor’s appointments and the eventual realization that our dream was shattered.
It occurred to me/us after the fog of those first days had lifted some, that miscarriages are a seemingly taboo subject in society. I mean, when was the last time you had a conversation about this topic, heard others talking about it or even heard it mentioned in a sermon in your local house of worship? (If you’re like me, probably NEVER, unless you were the voice sharing). Mayo Clinic notes that between 10% - 20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage (and that this number is probably much higher as often a miscarriage occurs before someone realizes they are pregnant). For sake of discussion, let’s say that the number is 25%...that means 1 in 4 pregnancies may end in a miscarriage. Quite heartbreaking and more common that one might think, isn’t it?
It made me wonder, why aren’t there more voices looking to provide hope and comfort to those who are hurting, grieving, wondering, and questioning their loss at any given moment? And often, when there are supports provided, men don’t get brought into those conversations; however, I assure you that we hurt too.
All of the above thoughts are part of why we started our nonprofit/ministry – M.I.A.2Hope. We want to help provide a source of hope to let others know they aren’t alone and that loss due to a miscarriage isn’t shameful and shouldn’t be taboo in our society, especially among people of faith. (The “M” in M.I.A. stands for miscarriage by the way.)
If you are struggling through loss, especially due to a miscarriage, please know you’re not alone. You are loved and care about! Please visit our website for more information and a list of helpful resources on a variety of topics.
Much love…