03/02/2025
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Women are guilt tripped, forced, coerced with lies from every angle, and in the end they are scared witless:TRAPPED when they abort their children. Why do you think abortions happen? -- My mom feared for her life when she was pregnant - as a teenager, so that is why she aborted. She feared that her dad would either beat her or disown her. I do not condemn her and you shouldn't either. She expressed to me recently that she fears condemnation. She told me this with tears welling up in her eyes (she even was speaking of herself and her abortion in 3rd person). She was so scared of what I would say back to her.
I educate her in LOVE and you should do the same with other post abortive women. (EVEN IF THOSE WOMEN ARE BEING HARD-HEADED! I KNOW IT'S HARD SOMETIMES, BUT YOU GOT TO KEEP ON, KEEP YOUR COOL, KEEP YOUR COMPOSURE. Be the BETTER person - continue to provide comfort.)
For you to call out a woman as a MURDERER or any other harsh word to describe what she did to her child, that is an UNFAIR label. It's not her fault that she was backed into a corner with no one to help her (she felt there was no one to help her). My mom had felt unloved. My mom felt like the lowest piece of scum on the earth. My mom admittedly said she felt like she wanted to die because she was so scared when she got pregnant as a teen. She understood it was wrong when she was sitting in those stirrups about to have her almost 3 month old pre-born baby ripped apart. My brother or sister. She didn't want that abortion. She was forecd into her abortion. She understood then and she understands now that it was a mistake. That is why she gets so defenseful when I try to bring it up. She felt that she had NO-CHOICE when she made her choice to abort. That is called being trapped and then on top of that coerced by the adults in the clinic misinforming her that it's just another piece of her body that the yare taking out. You're going to verbally condemn a woman after not even being fully educated about her abortion? Seriously? That's lowest of the low. How on earth do you think that would make her feel? She may need a push at certain times, but there are limits and then there are certain things that you NEVER SAY. USE YOUR DISCERNMENT.
You are not needed to remind her that it was "wrong" to abort: no matter who you think you are or what agenda you may be pushing. She knows it was wrong deep in her heart, these post-abortive women live with the turmoil everyday of their lives. It takes time for it to surface.
My mom told me that she already made amends with God and she doesn't need anyones approval. Which is correct, I agreed with her and I hugged her - but I asked her why doesn't she try to advocate the right to LIFE for other babies, and try to help other women out so that other women wont feel the same as she did and make the wrong decision? She said she's not ready for it. She's still not healed yet and it would be too painful to "get out there and help others not make the same decision she did". We need to respect this with ALL post-abortive women. It's been 35+ years and I'm not even 2 years into trying to get her healed emotionally. It's going to be awhile.
She will extend her hand to me (since I gained her trust) to help her heal from the death of her child (my brother/sister) - on her own time. And ONLY on her own time: not a second before.
You should not consider a person who is scared, confused, many times put under pressure by other people (even their own families, who should be supportive instead of threatening), who is lied to, and who feels like she truly has no other choice and is all alone in this, to be a murderer. To commit a crime or to sin, you must know that what you're doing is wrong AND you have to commit that freely. What freedom is there on someone being put under tremendous pressure by everyone around, who is lied to about that baby, threatened to be kicked out of her home, feeling like there's no one to turn to for help (both material and spiritual)?
