05/28/2025
Hello everyone, can l just talk for a minute about grief.
It has been 13 years since my first husband passed away and almost 6 years since my second husband passed away.
I went to numerous griefshare groups, had some at my home also, Started WidowCare 6 months after my first husband passed away.
I thought l had completely overcome my grief and completely healed.
But here lately l have been having some triggers in my life that would cause a lot of loneliness.
Driving home after dark by myself, watching TV alone at night etc, it was always happening at night between about dark and bedtime.
I thought it was the devil...
But then l had a wise friend tell be that they believe that l was still experiencing shock, l thought What!,
Not me, I've already went through grief, don't tell me l have to go through it again...
As l started writing letters to God and my husband, l started realizing that it is ok to still have some grief and that l may always miss them and wish they were here, that's not bad, because l loved them. At the same time l realized the loneliness came from missing my first husband of 38 years.
We would always talk and spend time in the evenings sharing our hearts, we would also share our hearts with each other as we were driving at nighttime..that is what l was missing, so l was actually grieving his presence in the evenings. Now that l know it is not the devil, or thinking l need another husband, l can rest in knowing that the Lord is with me, and it is normal to experience loneliness at times.
Jesus says he is our comfort and that he is with the broken hearted.
Please let me know if this helped you in any way...
