Abbey's Story

Abbey's Story Hello All! Please feel free to follow along as I share information, stories, and lessons I've learned from dealing with a cancer diagnosis as a 25 year old.

The purpose of this page is to share my story about battling Hodgkin's Lymphoma in daily bits in hopes of educating, uplifting, and inspiring my community to live fearlessly. I hope to educate and inspire this wonderful community to help spread empathy and positivity, and make a real change in our world no matter how small. I will be sharing charities that have helped me to give direction to those interested in donating to the cause and helping others who are walking in my shoes.

05/26/2022

I am overjoyed to share that my PET scan came back clean! ❤️ I can’t explain how relieved I am. For the first time in a long time I am so excited about my future.

05/25/2022

I have my first follow up PET scan/ blood work today since finishing treatment and the scanxiety is real. Pleas keep me in your thoughts and prayers today! Hoping for clean scans and to keep moving forward and putting all the pain of this last year behind me.

Hello y’all! I hope you excuse me as life starts to pick back up and get in the way.  Just some updates for you:- I am o...
05/10/2022

Hello y’all! I hope you excuse me as life starts to pick back up and get in the way. Just some updates for you:

- I am officially gearing up to go down to Florida and look at apartments to finally make this move! Most people in my life know that this move has been in the works for years, but was constantly pushed back because of a lot of trials placed in my life. As soon as I get cleared by my oncologist after clean scans (keep praying!) I will be free to start my new life in the sunshine!

- Last week was the big LLS event at the chophouse to support Vivian Kate (Keri Suhy) in her run for Woman of the Year. It was a beautiful event and I had so much fun in my sparkly dress and we were able to raise a lot of money for an amazing cause.

- my port scar has not healed well and ended up festering into a subdermal infection due to some bad stitching work done in the surgery. Some stitches were poking out and not dissolving, and it ended up looking pretty gross and getting itchy and painful well swelling up with gross fluids. I will spare the details. But I went in today to my amazing primary care physician (just kidding... my pediatrician who said I can see him until I’m 26 😅🙂) Dr. gladieux and he was able to break the scabs open and gently remove those stitches. He decided the best thing would be to let it close from the inside out instead of stitching it up again with the risk of it getting infected again. I was going to attach some pictures but decided I would spare you all- good news was it wasn’t as painful as I expected and the antibiotics should wipe out anything else!

- other than that, I’m feeling really good. I am back to being able to lift heavy in the gym again, and although cardio is draining for me (my lungs have some ways to go before they’re healed) and starting to sleep a little better. The fatigue is still there but staying busy helps me feel like myself again, so at this point it’s about finding the balance.

I was able to sit down last week with a 16 year old girl from my area who was just diagnosed. It is a beautiful thing for me to be on the other side of this and be in the position to help prepare and be a guide for someone else, just like my cancer friends did for me. That is what this is all about, and makes every hardship I went through worth it to know that I can pay it forward.

Thank you again for all of the unending love, support, and prayers sent my way. I’m just so grateful to be breathing on this earth every day.

04/20/2022

Update:

Overall my radiation side effects are almost all gone almost one month after being finished! My lungs are still not where they used to be but I’m hoping time heals and that chest pain and soreness fades as I keep recovering. My sunburn has faded and small freckles and sun spots to the treated areas are the only reminder. Port scar is healing okay with the last bits of glue finally starting to come off!

I am still feeling slightly weak and very fatigued all day. I’m back in the gym lifting and my weight has gone back to its natural range, although cardio has me gassed these days! I’m reminding myself that I’m still healing and that rest is not earned, it is deserved.

Mentally, I can see now why many people struggle after treatments are over. The anxiety over test results and scans is not as bad as it was initially, but looking in the mirror and seeing my hair is a constant reminder to me that i will never have that “back to normal” feeling… because nothing ever will be normal after what I went through. My appearance was never something I cared much about during treatment because I was too busy surviving. Now that I’m beyond just the level of surviving again, I can find myself feeling more self conscious about my hair. It’s not always easy to feel beautiful when my look now feels so different than what I am used to, and what I always thought was the expectation of a woman in society. That’s the honest truth and something I am working on!

I’ve began to realize that being back to normal is not attainable or realistic, but moving forward to who I am now and who I want to be in the future gives me a healthier way to approach healing and what my “2nd life” looks like. The fear is there, but so is a new level of excitement about where I’ll go next. I am lucky to have so many supportive friends who constantly remind me that I don’t have to have it all together right now and deserve to put healing first for myself.

So excited for our first LLS benefit event. Mark your calendars for May 5th! This will be an awesome night ❤️ please fee...
04/12/2022

So excited for our first LLS benefit event. Mark your calendars for May 5th! This will be an awesome night ❤️ please feel free to let me know if you would like to reserve a ticket! This will sell out ❤️

Hi guys! I am very excited to finally be able to make this announcement: I will be joining my dear mentor and friend Ker...
04/07/2022

Hi guys!

I am very excited to finally be able to make this announcement:

I will be joining my dear mentor and friend Keri Suhy's campaign for LLS Woman of the Year Race. If you aren't familiar with the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, they are the largest voluntary health organization dedicated to fighting blood cancer in the world. The LLS's mission is to cure leukemia, lymphoma, Hodgkin's lymphoma and myeloma, and improve the quality of life of patients and their families.

Personally, the same week I was diagnosed one of the first calls I received was from a man working for LLS who reached out to check on me and provide lots of resources and support for me. I was so overwhelmed and upset at the time that I ended up crying on the phone to a total stranger, who comforted me in the exact way I needed. I will never forget that phone call. LLS also gave me a resource and set me up with a charity that paid for all of the medication I needed (tens of thousands of dollars) to freeze my eggs. They are an organization very close to my heart.

Keri is the owner of Vivian Kate and has been such a wonderful friend, mentor, and confidante to me over the last few years. She shares my love for fashion and is outspoken, kind, and courageous. Keri has taken on this huge event in my honor and in the honor of her late cousin who died from leukemia as a teenager. Cancer sucks and causes so many families pain and uncertainty, but charities like this truly make a difference in peoples' lives all over the world.

If I were diagnosed with HL cancer in 1960, I would have a 10% chance of living. Because this charity funded so many medical advancements in the blood cancer field (as they continue to do today), I am blessed to be able to say that I beat blood cancer in 2022.

Please consider making a donation in my name to help fund this cause using the link attached to this post. It is something so so close to my heart! We can make a difference today, even a small one.

Thank you so much. All of your love and support has genuinely kept me going all of these months and made me feel like I am not alone going through such a tough time. It is an honor for me to use my platform now to give back and help others who have been or will be in my place.

Stay fearless!

https://pages.lls.org/mwoy/tol/tol22/aturner

04/06/2022

I’ll be sharing some big news tomorrow! ❤️

Well, it is finally official: on Thursday I will undergo one more surgery (my 4th since September) to get my port taken ...
03/29/2022

Well, it is finally official: on Thursday I will undergo one more surgery (my 4th since September) to get my port taken out!

Many people have never heard of a port or even know what one is so I figured now would be a great time to share!

When I got diagnosed, one of the first things my oncologist scheduled was a port placement and bone marrow biopsy. Luckily, I was able to get both of these done in the same surgery although doing that made the recovery more difficult for me since I do not tolerate the nausea from pain medicine very well.

What is a port?

- A port is a medical device implanted underneath the skin on one side of your chest. It is attached to a catheter that snakes up and over the collar bone and gets placed into my superior vena cava: a large vein that leads directly to the heart. Almost every person who gets a cancer diagnosis where chemo is needed will get this surgically implanted!

So why did I need one?

- A port offers a somewhat easier, safer route to access your bloodstream when you have more than 4 infusions scheduled. When I was undergoing chemo, I was getting poked with a needle about 4 times a week, some weeks more than others. Because I was constantly receiving IVs, chemo, steroids, and medicine, as well as getting my blood drawn to check my levels regularly, a port ensured an easy way to get all of that in there. Without one, you risk collapsing a lot of your veins in your arms since there is so much input/output. I know people who would have to start getting blood drawn from their feet because nurses could no longer access the veins in their arms! A port is also known to be a a little safer against infection.

- A port can be a little easier on the patient to have. They prescribed me a numbing cream that helped make it hurt a little less when accessing. After getting your port accessed 4-5 days in a row, it can be tedious and exhausting. This definitely helped me.

- A port is a necessity in some cases, because the chemo is so powerful it can actually create a lot of damage when exposed to one area of the body more than another. A port allows the drugs to be efficiently administered straight to your heart where it is pumped all over the body.

My port intake surgery was tough on my body. For one, they told me that I should have had a pediatric port placed since I am on the smaller side, but the hospital did not carry any. Since I also had my bone marrow biopsied, the situation got more rough. They couldn't get a large enough sample when doing the biopsy (they essentially take a HUGE needle into the back of your pelvis) so they had to repeat the biopsy process 3 times. For the surgery I was not put under so even though I was feeling loopy, I was still awake and was feeling a lot of pain and had to have more pain medicine injected during the surgery. I still have a tiny dot scar on my lower back from this. The bone marrow biopsy was very important because it helped determine how far my cancer has spread. If it were positive I would have been staged at 4 instead of 2. I'm still so grateful this came back negative. By the time the surgery team flipped me onto my back, I was still very much awake but more relaxed. The port intake surgery was a little easier than the bone marrow. Because they had to give me extra pain medication and stuff to knock me out, I woke up in a lot of discomfort and was very nauseous... not a fun recovery.
However, the nurses told me it would take 2 days to recover... so I decided not to cancel a wedding I planned on shooting before I got diagnosed. Looking back, shooting a 12 hour wedding 2 days after surgery was pretty tough although it was definitely my decision. In all, my port took about 2 weeks to heal because of the pain in my shoulder, back, chest, and neck. I am hoping the outtake will be much easier on my body!

I am grateful that I was able to get a port, but I cannot wait to have it out. For one, it is a constant reminder of what I have been through and the limitations that cancer has brought to my life. For another, I have to be very careful because it can be extremely dangerous and painful to knock the port out of place or disconnect the catheter from your vein. I haven't been able to work out as hard as I would like lifting weights, and I wasn't able to do my regular jumps and rails during snowboard season. I have a lot of back and shoulder pain still from my body trying to overcorrect and protect that area. Even bumping it or giving someone a hug can really hurt. It'll be a a huge relief to feel normal again!

Here are some photos to show how a port works, what it looks like, as well as some of the photos taken after the surgery. I know this is a lot of detail but I was pretty lost when I got mine so hopefully sharing this much can help prepare someone else for what to expect!

*one of the most thoughtful gifts given to me during this time was a seatbelt pillow to help mitigate the discomfort of sitting in a passenger seat where the seatbelt constantly rubs.** I highly recommend this as a great gift idea to someone undergoing treatment! **

Feel free to ask any questions :)

03/25/2022

In the last 9 months I’ve learned a lot, grown a lot, and written a lot too. I may be young, but I’ve began to write down some of the most important lessons I’ve learned the hard way throughout this time in my life. I’ll be sharing them piece by piece. Feel free to give your take as well!

Here are 5 of the most important things I’ve learned:

1. Time is a currency far more valuable than money

2. Gratitude is medicine. Meditation is medicine. Laughter is the best medicine.

3. You learn who deserves a place in your life based on who keeps throwing you a life jacket in troubled waters

4. There’s growth and peace in accepting your life for what it is even if it’s painful.

5. When you’re clouded in negativity the best thing you can do for yourself is doing something for others

This is a quote I have been reading and meditating on often. The anxiety of the possibility of cancer coming back is a t...
03/22/2022

This is a quote I have been reading and meditating on often. The anxiety of the possibility of cancer coming back is a tough pill to swallow but I keep trying to remind myself that living in fear isn’t living at all. Hope this helps someone else today no matter what situation they’re in. 🖤

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