Tacoma Death Cafe

08/18/2026

Hey y'all sorry, I needed to cancel this month's meetings. My kid and I have both been sick for half a month and I just got strep after he's had it. So we will be back next month with meetings!

08/13/2026

08/11/2026

Death humor is my favorite humor
But also, widows are the strongest people.

08/08/2026

Grief from the loss of a partner, of someone you consider your best friend, the person who pushed you forward or motivated you or believed in you, can be crushing.

The journey that Joman has been on since the sudden death of his partner Allie has been a testament that you can continue to love someone even after they are gone, and that you can rebuild your life without them, while continuing to honor their memory.

This is such a beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing with us and being vulnerable Joman.

When I first heard Ghost Servo’s “Another Life,” I was brought to tears by how eerily relevant the lyrics were to the profound grief I was experiencing over ...

08/05/2026

Mini death shroud for Death and American Society
Natural cotton dyed with turmeric

07/21/2026

Few things in our culture are more wounding than the concept of healing — as if the pains and losses that we suffer are an illness, a malfunction of the psyche to be cut out like a tumor, rat…

07/17/2026

"They're in a better place."
"I'm so sorry, how are you doing?"
"Hey at least they had a long good life."
"Wow, what a beautiful legacy they left behind."
"I'm sorry friend. Do you want to talk about it?"

Some things we say after someone dies can be uncomfortable. Our society doesn't talk about what to do when someone has died, how to act or talk about it. The consensus seems to be "it happened, be sad for a little bit and get over it."

But it does happen. And sometimes we're confronted with having to talk to the person it happened to, or we become the person people approach to share their sometimes very rehearsed, very overused or weird or almost minimizing sympathies with us.

And sometimes people speak poetry. Or they don't really speak at all but their comfort in knowing you can just exist around them in your grief is enough.

What is something you've heard or said that helped someone for real? What's something you hear or heard often that makes you roll your eyes?
Maybe we can give some ideas of language to people who always wish they had something real to say but never really learned how to say it.