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Mineral County Helpline provides victims of domestic violence and sexual assault free and confidential services such as advocacy, crisis counseling, assistance and support with emergency needs, filing court documents, trials and hearings.

💜 DAY 11 — WHAT NOT TO SAYWords MatterWhen someone tells us they are experiencing abuse, our first reaction may come fro...
10/11/2026

💜 DAY 11 — WHAT NOT TO SAY
Words Matter

When someone tells us they are experiencing abuse, our first reaction may come from fear, frustration, or wanting to fix the situation.

But some questions can unintentionally make a survivor feel blamed.

Try to avoid:

❌ "Why did you stay?"
❌ "Why didn't you leave sooner?"
❌ "Why do you keep going back?"
❌ "What did you do to make them angry?"
❌ "I would never put up with that."

Instead, try:

💜 "I'm glad you told me."
💜 "You don't deserve this."
💜 "I believe you."
💜 "How can I support you?"
💜 "Would you like help finding resources?"

We may not understand every decision a survivor makes—but we don't need to understand everything in order to offer compassion.

Day 11 of 31 — Don't ask why they stayed. Ask how you can help.

💜 DAY 10 — RESPONDING TO A DISCLOSURE"I Believe You."When someone tells you they are experiencing abuse, you may not kno...
10/10/2026

💜 DAY 10 — RESPONDING TO A DISCLOSURE
"I Believe You."

When someone tells you they are experiencing abuse, you may not know exactly what to say.

You don't have to have all the answers.

Start by listening.

Try saying:

💜 "I believe you."
💜 "I'm glad you told me."
💜 "This isn't your fault."
💜 "You don't deserve this."
💜 "How can I support you?"

Avoid pressuring them to make decisions before they are ready.

Your job isn't to take control of their situation. Your job is to help them feel heard, supported, and less alone.

If you are concerned about their immediate safety, help them connect with appropriate professional support.

📞 Mineral County Helpline Crisis Line: (406) 822-4202

💜 Sometimes the most powerful thing we can give someone is a safe person who will listen without judgment.

Day 10 of 31 — Listen. Believe. Support.

💜 DAY 9 — WHY DON'T THEY JUST LEAVE?Leaving Is ComplicatedOne of the most harmful questions we can ask a survivor is:"Wh...
10/09/2026

💜 DAY 9 — WHY DON'T THEY JUST LEAVE?
Leaving Is Complicated

One of the most harmful questions we can ask a survivor is:

"Why don't you just leave?"

Leaving an abusive relationship can involve much more than simply deciding to walk away.

A survivor may be worried about:

🏠 Housing
💰 Money
👶 Children
🐾 Pets
🚗 Transportation
⚖️ Legal matters
📱 Being monitored
🔒 Retaliation
👨‍👩‍👧 Family support
💼 Employment
📍 Where they will go next

For some survivors, leaving can also increase safety concerns, particularly when an abusive partner is losing control over the relationship. This is why individualized safety planning is so important.

Instead of asking, "Why don't you leave?"

Try:

"How can I support you?"
"What would help you feel safer?"
"Do you want help finding resources?"

💜 Survivors need safety and support—not judgment.

Day 9 of 31 — Replace judgment with support.

💜 DAY 8 — THE IMPACT ON CHILDRENChildren Are Affected TooChildren don't have to be physically harmed to be affected by d...
10/08/2026

💜 DAY 8 — THE IMPACT ON CHILDREN
Children Are Affected Too

Children don't have to be physically harmed to be affected by domestic violence.

They may hear arguments, see injuries, experience changes in routines, worry about a parent's safety, or live with the constant uncertainty that comes with an unsafe home environment.

Children may respond in many different ways. Some become quiet. Some become angry. Some struggle at school. Others may try to protect a parent or take on responsibilities far beyond their age.

Every child responds differently.

What matters is that we recognize that children are part of the impact of domestic violence—and part of the healing process.

Supporting a survivor can also mean helping create a safer, more stable environment for their children.

💜 Protecting survivors helps protect families.

And when children are surrounded by safe adults who listen, believe them, and provide stability, those relationships can become an important part of healing.

Day 8 of 31 — Every child deserves to feel safe at home.

💜 DAY 7 — THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCEUnderstanding the CycleDomestic violence is not necessarily violent every moment of every...
10/07/2026

💜 DAY 7 — THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE
Understanding the Cycle

Domestic violence is not necessarily violent every moment of every day.

For some survivors, abuse follows a cycle that can include periods of tension, an abusive incident, and then a period when the abusive partner may apologize, promise to change, become affectionate, or behave as though everything is finally okay.

That period of calm can create hope.

"Maybe this time will be different."

"They really seem sorry."

"Things are good again."

But without meaningful accountability and change, the cycle may begin again.

Understanding this cycle can help us understand why leaving an abusive relationship is rarely as simple as walking out the door.

💜 A survivor can love someone and still be unsafe with them.

💜 A survivor can leave and return.

💜 A survivor can need many attempts before they are able to stay safely away.

Our response should be compassion—not judgment.

Day 7 of 31 — Understanding the cycle helps us understand survivors.

💜 DAY 6 — EMOTIONAL ISOLATIONIsolation Can Be a Form of ControlAbuse doesn't always begin with someone telling you that ...
10/06/2026

💜 DAY 6 — EMOTIONAL ISOLATION
Isolation Can Be a Form of Control

Abuse doesn't always begin with someone telling you that you can't see your family or friends.

Sometimes it starts with:

"Your friends don't really care about you."

"Your family is a bad influence."

"I just don't trust that friend."

"Why do you need to go out without me?"

Over time, these behaviors can make someone feel like they have fewer and fewer people they can turn to.

Isolation can make it harder for a survivor to ask for help, find resources, or even recognize that what they are experiencing is abuse.

A healthy relationship should not require you to give up the people who love and support you.

💜 Your support system matters.

If someone you care about seems increasingly isolated, don't assume they don't want you in their life. Continue letting them know you care.

Sometimes simply saying, "I'm here when you need me" can make a difference.

Day 6 of 31 — Connection can be a lifeline.

💜 DAY 5 — FINANCIAL ABUSEWhen Money Becomes a Tool of ControlMoney is often connected to safety and independence.Financi...
10/05/2026

💜 DAY 5 — FINANCIAL ABUSE
When Money Becomes a Tool of Control

Money is often connected to safety and independence.

Financial abuse occurs when someone uses money or economic resources to gain or maintain power and control over another person.

It can look like:

💜 Preventing a partner from working
💜 Taking their paycheck
💜 Controlling access to bank accounts
💜 Giving an "allowance" and demanding receipts
💜 Ruining someone's credit
💜 Refusing to contribute to household expenses
💜 Taking someone's identification or financial documents
💜 Creating debt in someone else's name

The National Network to End Domestic Violence reports that financial abuse occurs in 99% of domestic violence cases and can create major barriers to leaving and rebuilding stability.

For someone experiencing abuse, the question isn't always simply, "Why don't they leave?"

Sometimes the question is:

"How can they afford to leave safely?"

💜 Building financial stability can be an important part of building long-term safety.

📞 Mineral County Helpline can help connect survivors with available resources and support.

Day 5 of 31 — Financial independence can be an important part of safety.

💜 DAY 4 — DIGITAL RED FLAGSYour Privacy MattersTechnology can be an important part of our lives—but it can also be used ...
10/04/2026

💜 DAY 4 — DIGITAL RED FLAGS
Your Privacy Matters

Technology can be an important part of our lives—but it can also be used as a tool for control.

Digital abuse can include demanding passwords, checking someone's phone without permission, constantly texting for updates, monitoring social media, tracking location, using technology to spy, or becoming angry when someone doesn't respond immediately.

A partner asking to share a location because both people genuinely want to is different from someone using location tracking to monitor or control their partner.

Technology should make communication easier—not make someone feel like they are constantly being watched.

Stalking and intimate partner violence can involve technology such as GPS tracking, phone messages, social media, and other monitoring tools.

💜 You have the right to privacy.

If you are concerned that someone may be monitoring your devices, consider reaching out from a safe device and talk with an advocate about technology safety before making changes that could alert the person monitoring you.

📞 Mineral County Helpline Crisis Line: (406) 822-4202

Day 4 of 31 — Your phone should be a tool, not a weapon.

💜 DAY 3 — LOVE VS. CONTROLHealthy Relationships Are Built on TrustThere is a difference between someone who wants to che...
10/03/2026

💜 DAY 3 — LOVE VS. CONTROL
Healthy Relationships Are Built on Trust

There is a difference between someone who wants to check in with you and someone who needs to control you.

A loving partner might ask, "How was your day?" or "Let me know when you get there safely."

Control can sound very different:

"Where are you?"
"Who are you with?"
"Why didn't you answer immediately?"
"You can't go there."
"I don't want you talking to them."

The difference is not simply how often someone communicates. It is about choice and control.

Healthy relationships allow both people to maintain friendships, make decisions, spend time apart, and have their own interests.

You should never have to give up your freedom in order to prove that you love someone.

💜 Love should make room for you to be yourself.

📞 If you or someone you know needs confidential support, Mineral County Helpline is here to listen.

Day 3 of 31 — Love is not control.

💜 DAY 2 — DEFINING ABUSEAbuse Isn't Always PhysicalWhen many people hear the words domestic violence, they picture physi...
10/02/2026

💜 DAY 2 — DEFINING ABUSE
Abuse Isn't Always Physical

When many people hear the words domestic violence, they picture physical violence. But abuse can take many different forms, and not all of them leave visible injuries.

Abuse can be emotional, verbal, financial, sexual, psychological, or digital. It can involve intimidation, threats, humiliation, isolation, controlling money, monitoring a phone, demanding passwords, or constantly questioning where someone has been and who they have been with.

Sometimes abusive behaviors begin slowly. What may first seem like jealousy, concern, or "just wanting to know where you are" can become a pattern of control.

Healthy relationships allow people to have choices, privacy, friendships, independence, and boundaries.

💜 If something in your relationship doesn't feel right, you deserve to be able to talk about it without judgment.

Learning to recognize abuse is one of the first steps toward helping ourselves and the people around us.

📞 Mineral County Helpline Crisis Line: (406) 822-4202

We are here to listen, support, advocate, and help connect you with resources.

Day 2 of 31 — Knowing the signs matters.

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301 2nd Avenue E
Superior, MT
59872

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Tuesday 8:30am - 3:30am
Wednesday 8:30am - 3:30am
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