Your Voice Matters2-Male Sexual Abuse Support

09/29/2026

He was just a boy. The adult male came up behind him, startled the boy, and grabbed him forcefully. The boy fought as best he could to get away. The man intended to r**e him and would not let go. Even though the boy kicked and struggled to get away, the freeze response took over. The boy's body responded to the man. That doesn't mean he wanted it; he wanted nothing of it. A strong man attacked and overpowered the boy. It was not the boy's fault.
The body can respond to sexual stimulation even during an assault. A physical response is not permission.
Arousal is a physiological response, not proof of desire, pleasure, or consent.
Male survivors deserve to be believed without having to explain or defend how their bodies reacted. The body is programmed to "respond" to sexual stimuli, but it most certainly does not mean the boy liked it, wanted it, or permitted the r**e. Boys, teens, and men need to understand that being fondled or touched is a physiological response of the p***s. It is a natural response, and it does not mean the male victim is gay.

06/09/2026

Men, there is no shame in taking care of your mental health. If you broke your arm you would seek medical help. Taking care of your mental health is just as important as a broken arm.

For years, I've talked about men's mental health, personal growth, purpose, resilience, and overcoming life's challenges. One thing I have rarely discussed publicly on this page is my faith.

This year, I'm making an exception.

I've spent countless hours studying mental health, leadership, relationships, personal development, and the struggles men face. While many of those resources have value, I have found that nothing has helped me more than my faith in God and the wisdom found in the Bible.

The Bible addresses loneliness, anxiety, anger, grief, purpose, temptation, forgiveness, identity, and hope. These aren't new struggles. Men have been wrestling with them for thousands of years.

Faith doesn't mean life becomes easy. It doesn't mean you never struggle. It doesn't mean you never need counseling, support, accountability, or help from others. What it does provide is a foundation when everything else feels unstable.

I've watched men build their lives on careers, money, relationships, status, and accomplishments only to find themselves empty when those things fail. I've also watched men find peace, purpose, and strength through a relationship with Christ in the middle of circumstances that should have broken them.

As Men's Mental Health Month continues, I would be doing a disservice if I didn't share one of the most powerful tools that has helped me and countless other men: faith.

Whether you're a lifelong believer, someone who walked away from church years ago, or someone who isn't sure what they believe, I encourage you to spend some time reading the Bible for yourself. You may find that God has been speaking to the struggles you're facing long before you ever realized it.

Mental health matters. Brotherhood matters. Purpose matters.

And for me, faith has been the foundation that helps hold all of those things together.

06/08/2026

There are some very important truths in this post.

Many male survivors carry a secret, isolating, and painful confusion that people without similar trauma may not understand.

During sexual violation, some men experience physical arousal. Some may even experience sensations that feel pleasurable.

For some survivors, violation and pleasure become fused in the body, leaving them with painful questions:

“Did I want it?”
“Does this mean I liked it?”
“What does this say about me?”

The answer is: nothing shameful.

A body’s response during trauma is not consent.
It is not desire.
It is not identity.
It is not proof that the survivor wanted what happened.

The body can respond automatically, even in moments of fear, confusion, freezing, dissociation, or powerlessness.

This is one of the most painful and misunderstood parts of male sexual trauma.

If you have never experienced sexual violation, it may be hard to understand how confusing and isolating this can be. Imagine carrying a question about yourself that feels too frightening to ask and too shameful to share.

Many male survivors have lived with that silence for years.

They deserve compassion, accurate understanding, and freedom from shame that was never theirs to carry.

05/05/2026

What is your opinion on child rapists? Should they receive capital punishment? A public firing squad? A public hanging? The electric chair? Lethal injection? What should be done to deter men and women from ra**ng children?

04/24/2026

04/21/2026

Sadly, Bill's story is all to common. The sexual predator threatens the victim to hold their silence.

My name is Bill, and I was attacked and sexually abused when I was 11.
The abuse happened at my house, by an older friend of my brother. When my brother was in the kitchen, his friend came in my room and quietly locked the door behind him. He was rough, and he hurt me. I remember staring at my door, waiting for it to swing open. Hoping and wishing my brother would walk in at any moment, and save me. But he didn’t get that chance. His friend finished, zipped up his pants, and told me he would burn down my house if I ever told on him, so I didn’t for 35 years!
I told my family after my mom died, because I thought I couldn’t tell her when she was living. And now, I just want to help others! If you think child sexual abuse is rare, you haven’t been paying attention. Every child deserves a safe place to grow; and I’m still learning what that feels like. When I was 15, I saw my abuser in a car with his 9 year old nephew, and I did nothing about it. I froze, and that little boy ended up killing himself because his uncle abused him also. Everyday, I have a really hard time with that! Tell me, how can I forgive myself?

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Child abusers, please stop and seek therapy and God.
Parents, talk with and believe your children. ❤️
Survivors, seek therapy. 💪🏽
(To share your story of abuse, message me)
www.TellSomebodyToday.com

04/21/2026

It is often difficult to tell the first person what happened to you. You don't have to tell everything...only what you are comfortable sharing. Healing begins when you tell someone.

04/20/2026

Male survivors are one of the most underserved populations in the global conversation on sexual violence — and the gap widens in marginalized communities.

In regions across South and Southeast Asia, Latin America, and the Middle East, male survivors face compounding barriers: legal systems that don't recognize male victimization, cultural frameworks that equate victimhood with weakness, and a near-total absence of specialized support services.

MaleSurvivor.org is committed to changing the research, policy, and professional landscape. We invite practitioners, policymakers, and advocates to engage — because closing this gap requires all of us.

What barriers have you observed in your work with underserved male survivors?

Male survivors are one of the most underserved populations in the global conversation on sexual violence — and the gap widens in marginalized communities.

In regions across South and Southeast Asia, Latin America, and the Middle East, male survivors face compounding barriers: legal systems that don't recognize male victimization, cultural frameworks that equate victimhood with weakness, and a near-total absence of specialized support services.

MaleSurvivor.org is committed to changing the research, policy, and professional landscape. We invite practitioners, policymakers, and advocates to engage — because closing this gap requires all of us.

What barriers have you observed in your work with underserved male survivors?

04/19/2026

Some children have been or are being sexually abused and desire to "share" their knowledge with other children. Some children do sexually abuse other children.

04/19/2026

Healing begins when sexual abuse survivors begin to share their story. Sharing your story breaks the chain of bo***ge that tells you no one cares. I care. Many others care as well. YourVoiceMatters2.