Married For Life

09/04/2026

This is a fascinating study by
Dr. John Gottman on physiological flooding.

It’s called the 20 minute rule…
One of Gottman’s intervention studies had couples interrupt a conflict discussion for 20 minutes. They stopped discussing the tense issue and did something neutral while their physiology settled aka their bodies relaxed. Studies show that’s how long it takes. When they resumed, the quality of the interaction changed significantly—they regained greater access to humor and affection, and listening skills.

So, Call a 20 minute timeout
It’s not rejection it’s regulation.

We have a friend, who has a cousin, who has a neighbor, who has a brother (😊 IYKYK) who benefited greatly early on in their marriage from the 20 minute rule.

Picture below may or may not be our 20 minute timeout. 🤓




Pastors - Let’s visit your 2027 calendar and have Tony & Susan oversee a marriage conference for you.

09/03/2026

Ready to Go
At Equippers Church

Tony Palow
Susan Fehr-Palow
Ryan McDowell
Equipping For Life

09/03/2026

Can someone say…FINALLY.
It’s actually happening.
Married For Life is on their way for their PODCAST to startup. 🎇

Your marriage coaches here - so let’s hit the comments section with some topics you want us to address.

See you 🔜 🔥

09/02/2026

Check out our latest email to our friends ➞ 5 Ways to Re-Capture A Covenant Marriage ♥️

If you don’t receive our weekly resource emails - head to
marriedforlifeministry.com/ and click the Subscribe 🔔 Link and I’ll send you this resource.

Picture below is an actual photo in Wilmington, North Carolina

09/02/2026

You don’t have a communication problem - You have a comprehension problem.

It’s when I feel hurt the most is when I need to feel heard the most. The goal? Make an attempt to understand your spouse.


Tony Palow Susan Fehr-Palow

09/01/2026

Back to the land of Chicago
With Stone Church and
Pastor Adrien & Kristina Thorne

Let’s make the connection between a strong marriage ministry and a strong church.





Pastors - DM us to hop into our 2027 calendar.

09/01/2026

Heading back to
Connect Point Church
in Hilo Hawaii ☀️

08/31/2026

08/29/2026

The research of George Barna is fundamental to the understanding of church success and growth. Marriage ministry within a local church isn’t just another department or program.

His findings seem simplistic; marriage ministry = church growth. It strengthens the very households that make up the church. When marriages become healthier, families become stronger. When families become stronger, people become more connected, engaged and equipped to serve.

Base on my own personal experience I have found that it impacts discipleship, retention, leadership development, children’s ministry, generosity and the overall health of the church.
It’s an investment in the infrastructure of the church.

We are blessed to connect with the marriage ministry leaders of Tower Hill Church in Auburn NH - Cari & Scott of Knuckles.

Our first night at the conference was amazing - We had a powerful time.



marriedforlifeministry.com
Susan Fehr-Palow Tony Palow

08/22/2026

Today we got to coach this amazing and passionate crew from the South.
We appreciate Pastor David & Jillian Fasseel Freeland of Multiply Church - Wilmington.
1st time with these peeps and we are planning on coming back.




Tony Palow Susan Fehr-Palow