06/15/2026
Dear Me,
I am writing this to the version of myself that lives inside the fire, the swelling, and the unpredictable storms of Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS). I see how hard you fight every single day just to stay upright. I know you are exhausted. But I need to talk to you about our peace, because protecting it has become a non-negotiable requirement for our survival.
For a long time, we treated peace like a luxury we could only afford on āgood days.ā We let the pain dictate the boundaries, and we let guilt run the clock. But the truth is, living with an overactive nervous system means peace cannot just be an afterthought. It is the medicine we have to actively cultivate. Moving forward, my peace has firm requirements, and I need you to honor them:
The Right to Say No: Peace requires that we stop over-extending our body to make others comfortable. āNoā is a complete sentence, and it is a shield for our nervous system.
A Zero-Tolerance Policy for Guilt: Taking a rest day, cancelling plans, or staying in bed is not a failure. It is necessary maintenance. We will no longer apologize for surviving.
Pacing, Not Pushing: We are done with the āboom and bustā cycle. Pacing ourselves is not giving up; it is an act of fierce self-preservation.
Protecting Our Space: We must walk away from chaotic environments, stressful dynamics, and people who demand more energy than we have to give.
Gentle Self-Talk: When the flares hit, we will meet our body with kindness instead of frustration. You cannot heal or find calm while at war with yourself.
CRPS takes so much out of our hands, but these boundaries are the things we can control. Setting these requirements isnāt selfish; it is how we create a safe harbor in the middle of a storm. Letās promise to guard our peace like the precious, vital resource it is.
With love and absolute grace,
Myself