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Stop the Silence In Memory of Jesseka Frazer-Musson we want to Stop the Silence around domestic violence. There were warning signs, looking back, that we all missed.

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On May 1, 2017, Jesseka Frazer-Musson was murdered by her fiancé in Bonners Ferry Idaho. Our family and our community lost a vibrant young woman, mother, daughter and so much to so many people, to a senseless act of brutality. Had we all been better educated, there is the possibility it could have been prevented. We have been working through this unimaginable traumatic grieving process and have decided we need to jump into action to help others by raising funds for local non-profit organizations who provide support & work directly with people affected by domestic violence. We are a musical family & have found healing in music, so it is natural for us to want to share this love through a music filled event. We have partnered up with the YWCA of Spokane, NAOMI, The Spokane Reginal Domestic Violence Coalition and Safe Passages of Coeur d’ Alene because of the amazing work they are doing in our communities and their need for funding in these areas. This includes providing public education & awareness, emergency & support as well as many other services needed to heal and empower families. Our First fundraising event in Jesseka’s honor, “Stop the Silence”, was on Friday, October 13, 2017at the McGinnity Room in Spokane. 100% of the proceeds were donated. Since then we have done several fundraisers to support these organizations and what they do in the community. Since 2020 we have become our own nonprofit still supporting the mentioned organizations in the community. Each year we are able to touch the lives of so many in different ways. During the pandemic we were able to provide activity books, reading material and essentials like shampoo deodorant and soap to shelters in need. We also provided meals to support these safe houses and local restaurants in our efforts. We have started a tradition of doing Bunny Grams delivering baskets and hiding eggs to numerus safe houses and shelters giving children the sense of joy and normalcy while they are transitioning in their new life. On Mothers Day we have partnered with local photographers and hair and makeup artist to provide family photo shoots. In 2019 we were able to buy a car with the help of one of our founding partners Valley Auto Liquidators to provide to a woman who had left a seven year abusive relationship with transportation to get to and from work. Her abuser had sabotaged her car and it was not repairable. We have started a “Go Bag” Program in 2020 and are hoping to grow that program more and get the essentials in the hands of those who need it. In 2022 our team is also looking at how we can serve the need of fostering animals until their owners can get into housing of their own. With your donations of time, services, goods, or money we can make an impact, so others can become educated, awareness can be spread, families can get help and hopefully others do not have to experience the pain of losing a loved one in this way. Your generous support will go toward services that directly affect individuals and families in need of escape from dangerous situations, basic needs for those who must leave everything behind, education and family support. Would you be willing to make a tax-deductible donation to help stop the cycle of violence & pain? Help us to step up as a community & increase the support & become an ally to those who are all too often silenced by their abusers, and those not recognized by their communities as in need of help. I whole heartedly invite you to join us to stand against the devastating silence surrounding domestic violence, and the lives forever changed by it, by making a generous donation today. Help us to “Change Lives and Heal Hearts”

Fundraising Chair Amanda Frazer
Director Shauna Kennedy

10/15/2026

from the Spokane County Prosecutor's Office. Spokane man who beat, strangled, and stabbed his ex-girlfriend to death sentenced to an exceptional sentence of 50 years in prison

On October 13, 2026, in Spokane County Superior Court, Jean Paul Kirkpatrick (48) was sentenced to 600 months in prison after a jury found him guilty of 1st Degree Murder last week. Additionally, by their special verdicts, the jury found Kirkpatrick was armed with a deadly weapon during the commission of the crime and that he and the victim, Fatimah Alghazwi, were intimate partners. Lastly, the jury found an aggravating circumstance known as “rapid recidivism” because Kirkpatrick committed this offense within a short period - 28 days - after his release from jail on other domestic violence offenses.

The case stems from an incident in February 2023 at an apartment in North Spokane. Court documents and trial testimony show police were called to the apartment on February 8th by a social worker who reported Kirkpatrick was trying to force his way into Alghazwi’s unit. Police arrived and spoke with Alghazwi, encouraging her to obtain a protection order after learning of Kirkpatrick’s escalating behavior. The next day, the social worker planned to accompany Alghazwi to secure a protection order. When Alghazwi failed to arrive for their appointment, the social worker became concerned and went to her apartment. Kirkpatrick opened the door and said Alghazwi was unavailable.

Later that evening, an employee at the daycare attended by Alghazwi’s children called 911 when Alghazwi did not pick up her children. Police arrived at Alghazwi’s apartment and found her face down in a pool of blood. Medics determined Alghazwi was deceased. She had been beaten, choked, and stabbed 19 times in the neck and shoulder. Surveillance video showed Kirkpatrick coming and going from her apartment approximately 4 times that day, eventually forcing his way in. Kirkpatrick left the apartment after the victim was dead, and returned a short time later, taking her wallet. Police later located and arrested Kirkpatrick.

Kirkpatrick initially represented himself in the trial until Judge Marla Polin revoked his pro se status following his multiple outbursts and failure to abide by the court’s rulings. He eventually took the stand in his own defense and admitted to stabbing Alghazwi 18 times, saying he acted in self-defense and admitting he was not too drunk to form the intent to kill her, which his lawyers presented as a defense.

At the sentencing hearing, the victim’s surviving family and friends spoke passionately about the loss of this mother to two young children. The father of one child relayed that his child continually asks when her mother is coming back and must now navigate the world without her. The State requested the court impose an exceptional sentence above the standard sentencing range of 411-548 months in prison. Prosecutors argued that the facts of the case showed Kirkpatrick intended to kill the victim and ensured his success by first beating and strangling her, then stabbing her repeatedly as she lay unconscious on the floor. The State asked the judge to impose the high-end of 548 months, plus 24 months for the weapons enhancement, and another 28 months for the rapid recidivism aggravating circumstance, for a total of 600 months, or 50 years. The defense asked for the low-end of the sentencing range, noting, in part, Kirkpatrick’s traumatic childhood.

Judge Polin said she empathizes with Kirkpatrick’s difficult upbringing, but it did not justify a low-end sentence. She considered Kirkpatrick’s actions before, during, and after Algahzwi’s murder, including the three different ways he attacked her, which medical experts testified all contributed to her death. Judge Polin repeated Kirkpatrick’s words to detectives upon his arrest, that he “loved her to death,” saying she believes he did, indeed. The judge followed the State’s recommendation and imposed a sentence of 600 months in prison. She also imposed 36 months of community custody should Kirkpatrick be released from incarceration.

Deputy Prosecuting Attorneys Hannah Stearns and Kaitlyn Berish handled the case and trial which lasted 6 weeks. We thank them, our Victim/Witness Advocates and support staff, and the Spokane Police Department, particularly lead Detective Chan Erdman, for their diligent work in bringing a measure of justice to the victim.

10/14/2026

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