07/17/2023
This week, July 16-22, is Birth Trauma Awareness Week.
There are so many things to talk about with this, it’s hard to know where to start.
But it feels really important to normalize how hard *birthdays* can be for people who have experienced birth trauma, especially the first birthday.
Many people experience flashbacks, dread, anxiety and grief regarding where they were and what was happening one year ago.
“At this time last year, I was ________.”
While everyone else is expecting them to be the picture of motherly bliss, planning their baby’s first birthday party down to the detail, complete with a cake smash and guests, they are reliving one of the worst days of their life.
Not wanting to celebrate.
Not wanting to see anyone.
📣 This is to let you know that if you didn’t feel up for celebrating your baby’s first birthday because that day is also the one year anniversary of a very painful event for you, that’s okay. This is a trauma response.
💛 You are not a horrible mom/parent.
💛 It doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby, or aren’t grateful for your baby.
💛 You can love your baby AND be really triggered and struggling on this particular day.
💛 You can tell friends & family that you don’t want to see anyone on that specific day, and celebrate your baby on a different day.
💛 You can meet yourself where you are and give yourself space to grieve.
💛 This is SO normal. It’s incredibly difficult & lonely. One day you WILL feel better. But for now take care of yourself.
If this is you, I see you totally. I’ve been there.
How did you handle the first birthday after birth trauma?