02/17/2025
“…If grief is love with nowhere to go, then
Oh, I’ve loved so immensely.
That summer, everything I touched
Was green. All bruises will fade
From green and blue to skin.
Let me grow through this green
And not drown in it.
Let me be lawless and beloved,
Ungovernable and unafraid.
Let me be brave enough to live here.
Let me be precise in my actions.
Let me feel hurt.
I know I can heal.
Let me try again - again and again.”
I’ve been doing some work on grief recently, on a personal and professional level, and this morning I came across ‘Greensickness’ by Laurel Chen and I had to share this excerpt - the whole poem is beautiful so go check it out.
In times of need, poetry always comes to the rescue. Reminding us of our humanity, stepping in as if to say: “you may not have the words for it, but I do.”
There’s someone out there who can say it for us, often better. How amazing is it to feel so seen? Words that resonate so deeply that can somehow bring unexpected closure.
Grief is complex, multi layered and non-linear. It doesn’t move seamlessly from one stage to the other, often it’s all mixed up. It never really goes away but it does change with time. And the way you’re able to deal with it changes too.
For many it feels like a wave - feelings coming out of nowhere. Sometimes you drown in them and sometimes you’re able to let them wash over you.
It’s universal yet so personal and it unfolds differently for each of us. It can feel uncertain, draining, overwhelming, terrifying and also, at times, comforting, grounding and heartening. Like when you find an old note at the very end of a drawer and you can’t help but smile.
I keep reminding myself that I learn the theories and then I often have to throw them out of the window because it’s humans I’m dealing with and their stories and lived experiences are what matters to me the most.
What does feel true, meaningful and helpful to you and not what’s logical and by the book?
Your own timeline and your own way through 💜