06/27/2026
The Lesson Of Love
"We can only find peace and happiness in love when we release the conditions we place on our love for each other. And we usually place the toughest conditions on those we love the most. We have been taught conditional love well- we have literally been conditioned-which makes this a difficult unlearning process. As human beings, it is not possible to find complete unconditional love with one another, but we can find more than just the minutes we usually get in a lifetime.
One of the few places we do find unconditional love is from our children when they are very young. They don't care about our day, our money, or our accomplishments. They just love us. We eventually teach them to put conditions on their love as we reward them for smiling, getting good grades, and being what we want them to be. But we can still learn a lot from the way children love us. If we loved our children just a little more unconditionally, for a little while longer, we might create a very different world to live in.
Conditions on love are weights on our relationships, When we release the conditions, we can find love in many ways we never thought possible.
One of the greatest obstacles to giving unconditional love is our fear that the love may not be returned. We don't realize that the feeling we seek lies in the giving, not in the receiving.
If we measure love received, we will never feel loved. Instead, we will feel shortchanged. Not because we really were, but because the act of measuring is not an act of love. When you feel unloved, it is not because you are not receiving love; it is because you are are withholding love. "-
Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Excerpt from the book: Life Lessons (How our Mortality can Teach us about Life and Living) Authors: Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler