08/12/2018
Sooo very well said...
Yep...big mess. I hate it. But heres the thing...if you want to help a disabled person, someone crippled by severe daily pain, dont offer advice on how to do things better. I do things the way i do for a reason. If you lived in horrible pain, youd develop strange ways as well. You dont understand, so dont make me feel worse by explaining how to do it better. Because then i have to explain to you why I cant do it your way. And this makes me feel useless and incompetant. Also, if i get up and do a task, dont tell me not to. I NEED to. I cant sit around and let someone else do everything and you are infantalising me when you tell me to go sit down. Again, you make me feel useless and incompetant. I know what i can and cant do. And i need to do what i can. I need to keep trying. And remember, this us my home. Dont rearrange my cuttlery drawer, or put things in 'better' places. Things belong where they belong because i cant lift them from down low, or reach up high and manage their weight. There are reasons for everything that you find odd, dont ask, just accept theres a reason. In short, dont think you can do it better. Of course you can, you re not disabled by pain and weak joints. Do things my way, cos thats what Im paying you for. Allow me to keep my dignity. Took me many tries to find a carer who understands this.