Nar-Anon Family Groups of San Antonio

10/27/2026

October 27 ~ Nar-Anon Daily SESH Reading

IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT:

Many of the Nar-Anon meetings I attend close with the Serenity Prayer and a few words of encouragement with the collective suggestion: “Keep coming back; it works, if you work it, so work it, you’re worth it.”

Keep coming back. This was the only thing that I remember hearing at my first meeting. Initially, coming back to Nar-Anon meetings for me was not a choice I wanted to make. I came because I wanted to change my husband who is the addict in my life. One idea that I neither like nor accepted right away was that I had to change myself. I felt I had no character defects and I definitely was not the problem. I listened at meetings and to my surprise, I kept learning. By listening to other members share their experience, strength and hope, I learned two things. I was not alone and I was not without character defects.

I now know that I can go to meetings and share the anger and rage I feel. The people in these rooms understand. They do not judge me. For the first time, I have permission to be angry and I do not need to hide or feel ashamed. Once the anger has passed, I can begin to look at the one thing I can change: me. In Nar-Anon, I can heal and recover if I keep coming back and work it, because I am worth it.

Thought for Today: I know that I am not alone; I have the support of the Nar-Anon fellowship. All I need to do is to keep coming back.

“Since there is no ‘arrival’, no magical day on which we suddenly achieve serenity and live on forever free of stress or strain, most of us eventually learn to be patient. We find that we can trust the process of recovery to move us ever forward, even if it sometimes feels as if we’re moving backwards.” ~ How Al-Anon Works

Copyright 2007 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters

10/27/2026

It’s Tuesday virtual meeting day via zoom ~ Tonight 6pm central time.
You are not alone.

10/27/2026

10/26/2026

October 26 ~ Nar-Anon Daily SESH Reading

STEP TEN IN JAIL:

Time in the Nar-Anon program gave me a false sense of security. Everyone told me what a great program I was working. I had accepted that I could not change my husband, but I still wanted to help. I still thought that I could be an integral part of the addict’s recovery. I started out small, a little help here, and a little help there, but I had my program behind me. I felt, “This time I’m okay, I know what I am doing, and I can handle it. This time is different.”

One evening I called home and the addict answered the phone. I knew within a few minutes that he had been using. I left work early and went home immediately to confront him. The confrontation soon became mutually physical. The addict attempted to leave by taking my car and I called the police. When the police arrived, we told our stories and we were both taken to jail.

At that time, I had been in the program a year and thought I had my reactions under control. I could have used any one of the many tools I learned in the program to avoid these consequences. I had a lot of time to think that night. I took what I believe was my first honest Step Ten; accepting that I was in that cell, not because of the addict, who was in the cell next to me, but because of my own insane actions and reactions. I was responsible for me.

Thought for Today: Recovery is a process. I may never be all better. I can learn to grow every day if I keep an honest, open and willing mind to new ways of doing things.

“Help them to take failure, not as a measure of their worth, but as a chance for a new start.” ~ Book of Common Prayer

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10/26/2026

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10/25/2026

October 25 ~ Nar-Anon Daily SESH Reading

SELF-AWARENESS:@

This is a hypothetical monologue that those of us recovering from the effects of addiction might have:

Who is this “me?” “Me” is who takes care of “them.” “Me” is who will be so much better, once “they” are better. Who has time for “me” when there is so much that “they” need to have done? “They” don’t appreciate “me”; “they” don’t see all the good “I” am doing for “them.” “I” know what “they” need, if only “they” would listen. “They” think “they” can take care of themselves, but where would “they” be without “me?” “They” keep making the same mistakes and “I” have to clean up the mess. “I” don’t make mistakes; “I” am too busy with “their” mistakes. “They” will listen; “I” will make them. “I” don’t give up; “I” will find a way to make “them” better. The pain will go away, then “I” will not be so scared all of the time. “They” will see how much “I” love “them,” how much “I” have sacrificed for “them.” Then “they” will make “me” happy, and we will all be better.

Thought for Today: We may think it is easier to be a victim of other people’s behavior than to take responsibility for our own lives. Nar-Anon puts the focus on us and takes it away from the addict(s) in our lives. It is scary to look inside ourselves and take responsibility for what we think and feel. Nar-Anon gives us a safe environment to take those looks, and a loving program to help us grow.

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” ~ Leo Tolstoy

Copyright 2007 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters

10/24/2026

October 24 ~ Nar-Anon Daily SESH Reading

ENCOURAGEMENT:

I have learned from Nar-Anon that there are several ways to keep myself encouraged while living with an addict. When I go to meetings, read literature, work the steps, get a sponsor, and trust a Higher Power, I am choosing to take care of myself.

But what about the addict? If the addict chooses not to be in a program, I feel there is no one to encourage him except me. I know there is nothing I can do to change the addict, or to make him want to change, but I can constructively encourage him in little ways:

· I can stop trying to control or run his life. Let him choose, fall, fail, and learn on his own. Saving him from the consequences may mean that it takes longer for him to reach his bottom and get help.

· I can trust in him and believe that he can succeed in recovery. This does not mean I have to trust him or believe what he says. My positive attitude and energy will rub off on him.

· I keep expectations low. Instead of a high level of expectation, I note progress from where he was to where he is, not where I think he should be.

· I give verbal reinforcement for accomplishments, progress and growth. I show appreciation for the good things even if it is expected or seems insignificant.

· I trust in a Higher Power to take care of the addict and thereby not interfere with the working out of the addict’s process.

Thought for Today: By practicing these few ways to encourage the addict, I stay out of the way of the addict’s recovery and I stay in peace and serenity by ridding myself of the responsibility I might have mistakenly taken on to try to get and keep the addict clean.

“Love and let be.” ~ Nar-Anon Blue Book

Copyright 2007 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters

10/23/2026

SA Serenity Nar-Anon Family Group meeting every Friday 6:30pm central time.