The John J. Rhoden Foundation, Inc.

04/04/2025

Every one of us knows at least 1 man who was or still is a victim of emotional abuse.

02/13/2025

I feel as though this needs a reshare. My son's abuser walks around as though she's blameless. The sheriff's department has protected her for years, even to the point of destroying evidence. I, like so many others in this town will never have justice in this lifetime.

Murder via covert or pernicious abuse—psychological murder—is one of the most unrecognized form of abuse that exists. It is so obscure that nobody has ever been convicted of committing the devastating crime.

11/15/2024

10/26/2024

Always on my mind...

10/09/2024

Today, we pray for those in the path of Milton. Lord, you can calm the seas and silence the winds, be with those in the path of this storm.

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06/06/2024

There is no 'dealing' with abusive situations, you leave them. Abusive women are dangerous, just as dangerous as an abusive man.

Read this article to identify the top signs your wife is abusive and learn how to deal with an abusive wife.

05/24/2024

My name is John Rhoden. I grew up in a great family. I had 5 other siblings, and my mom and dad. I had a normal life until I got involved with 'her'. I was blind to what my real friends and family tried to make me see...my sister even warned me in the beginning to 'have fun with that but don't bring it home to mom and dad.' I did anyway. I can't explain the 'game' even after she blacked my eye the first time...I knew better, yet still put a ring on her finger, well, the first wasn't good enough, she had to have the one my sister had wanted...always wanting something someone else wants...I should have seen the signs. My life with her was a lie from the beginning, she hated my little girl and told a friend that she wished that she would 'go away for good', and now I see she was doing her best to see that happen. She had multiple affairs, so many that I doubted the legitimacy of the three children I parented, and I say 'I' because truth be known, she is not a nurturer by nature, quite the contrary. I will openly admit that I used alcohol and other things to escape my life with her, and she would besmirch my name, yet will never admit her own use. My family upon seeing me beat up and bloody in October of 2017 urged me to call the police, but I didn't want her to go to jail, and would the police even believe me? Probably not. So the nasty comments and slapping and punching continued. Her father was pressuring me financially, I gave her money, so she went to bars during the day with her friend who comically works for child protective services..if they only knew what she was doing on their time...My 'wife' thinks that every man in St. John's county is in love with her, she thinks she's 'smart' in a conniving sort of way. The night of my death was such a of glazing over of truth and lie. I spoke to one of her boyfriends on Friday evening who was so totally caught off guard I felt sorry for him...he told me she was the aggressor, she chased after him, and that she told him that I was a druggie, she was getting a divorce and that I wasn't living in the house...lol, at the time, I was watching my children...always the liar. He may be surprised to learn he wasn't the only one whose interests she was entertaining, there were more...one she was texting while my body lie lifeless in the adjacent room...while the police were 'investigating'. I felt that after she went back to work at her old familiar stomping ground it was all a matter of time, and to be honest, I had plans of my own. I had money and I had had enough. Everything my family and friends had said was true, it was time to leave. So, what happened that night? Maybe more questions need to be asked, maybe things are not as they seem, the police were hasty to close, but I know the truth, and at some point in time all evil will face judgement, that day, for everyone involved is coming, and because my family is praying daily for it, it is coming quickly. The point behind this post is to save others like me who may think they are involved with a individual who is trying to destroy them. An 'I love you, I hate you' relationship is not normal, my wife, hated my family, she hated and verbally abused my daughter...but she did it all behind my back, I had no idea she was planting these seeds. Right from the beginning she was tearing apart my reputation, spreading lies about my parents and siblings. Look, listen to the friends you had before 'her', if they say she is doing these things, get out, don't discuss anything with her, get only the things you need and leave. Paying her child support is much better than dying because of someone who is incapable of caring about anybody but themselves.

04/27/2024

It begins with an insult, it may be about something you've shared that bothers or upsets you, it may be a discredit of someone close to you like family or close friends. For John, it was that his parents had 'favorites'. I can tell you, all of our children are our 'favorites'. Each one of them brings something different and unique to the table. So the alienation begins, pointing out every flaw in every relationship until the only one he felt he had was her. Then, after defending her physical and mental abuse, he finds she's been cheating with not one, not two, but three different men...how did she do it? Talent I guess. She knew John trusted her and this gave her everything she needed to do whatever she wanted. Every single guy did not know about John, or each other, until that night. The sad thing is that what she did and continues to do is legal. Emotional abuse, mental abuse, and even physical abuse of men is legal...driving a man to the point of su***de is legal. No one believes a man because all a woman has to say is that she was defending herself, and, she will be believed. I've seen it happen. I've seen men who have filed injunctions and have let them go because their abuser threatened them....this is why John did not report her. As the founder of The JJR Foundation, I still urge clients to file those injunctions because even if they go nowhere, they are court records, they become part of their record, and the more men who report, the more men become part of a statistical group that brings awareness to this issue. So stand up and be counted, say their names out loud for all to hear...you may be saving someone's life along with your own.

04/26/2024

Always remember that there's nothing worth sharing like the love that let us share our name.
Family is forever.

04/26/2024

My son's abuser fit every description from Narcissist to Narcopath. She, yes, she hasn't a soul. Even today there are countless men she's brought into her house, extracted what she was in need of at the time, and then cast them aside like yesterday's trash. I am so tired of the attention that women get, because, yes, women are abused, but when you bring up the truth that men are abused almost as frequently, even the 'experts' want to argue. The fact is that men don't report, and if they threaten to do so, the abuser retaliates. Promises, promises, the abuser wlll promise the abused anything to keep them under her control. She will literally lull her victim into a false sense of security and he will believe she's going to be different this time....however, the honeymoon period will always have the same ending for the victim because to the abuser, he is just a tool, a means of getting whatever she wants and he will soon be discarded....which was his destiny all along.

Murder via covert or pernicious abuse—psychological murder—is one of the most unrecognized forms of abuse that exists. It is so obscure that nobody has ever been convicted of committing the devastating crime.

04/26/2024

As I began re-researching topics on the abuse of men in their relationships, yet again the internet is full of articles citing women as the 'victims', pretty much the only victims. Women are excessively covert in their abusive tactics, so much so that by the time a man realizes he is a victim, it may be too late, and he will quietly take the secret of his abuse to his grave. If you know someone who may be suffering at the hands of his partner, please let us know, we'd like to help.

Are you a man who may be experiencing abuse in your relationship, but you aren't totally sure? You can find out here.